When a new relationship begins, a woman gives you the opportunity to make a stellar first impression. Everything you do seems new and fresh, every opinion denotes a novel outlook from a new source and even the cliche dinner and a movie can be exciting since the company is new.

Keeping a relationship feeling new and fresh is vital to keeping it enjoyable. Patterns, routines and ruts are all very boring by definition and provide a woman with the perfect excuse to split.

However, coming up with something spontaneous to do every time you go out is certainly a tall order. Luckily, with a little advance planning, you can come off as a wildly spontaneous guy.  As a man who has been dating for some time, you’ve no doubt amassed a great tome of date ideas that can be recycled with every new relationship in the form of planned spontaneity, and you definitely have a great wealth of resources to draw from to create the illusion of spontaneity.

So, follow these tips to indulge her in a little of this planned spontaneity and she’ll be impressed by your willingness to be original every time you take her out -- no matter how unoriginal your idea might actually be.
Be New To Her
You already know the local restaurants, clubs, bars, venues, and parks that work great for dates. You know that women love the maroon velvet booths at your favorite lounge or that all women love the fruity cocktails at your favorite club. She doesn’t know you’ve been to these places before, so play your hand close to your chest and pull these gems out at certain times to appear like you’re great at trying new things.
Raid Your Friends For Ideas
Referrals from friends can be a wonderful way to get new ideas to set up a little planned spontaneity. Ask them for ideas on restaurants, movies, shows, plays, galleries or any other date locale or activity. And since these ideas aren’t coming directly from you, even if you’ve been with your girlfriend for a long time, she won’t see any of them coming.
Don’t Make “Plans”
This isn’t to say you shouldn’t be scheduling time to spend with her. Everyone’s busy, so not giving notice for a date can be annoying. She may see your actions as you monopolizing her time or not considering her life apart from you. Avoid this problem by scheduling a date with her ahead of time without letting her in on the precise details of the activity. This way, you can still throw in the element of surprise. If you want to take the surprise to the next level, tell her you’re taking her to dinner, and at the last minute, take her to the theater or an art show she’s mentioned in passing. Surprise her by showing her that you listen.

Planned spontaneity has never been so easy…Think Outside The Box
Setting up some planned spontaneity doesn’t mean you have to come up with your best ideas right on the spot. Right now, start thinking of out-of-the-ordinary date ideas that can be a lot of fun. Take her to the zoo or an amusement park in the rain. Plan a walk that hits up your city’s most interesting architectural structures and have a quote ready about the awe architecture can inspire. Go to the local university and attend a lecture on a subject she enjoys. Sit in the back and watch her intellect be stimulated, which may in turn lead to stimulation of the physical variety. Take a drive to a point of natural beauty in your area and discuss something she’s interested in.

Tell her you’re going for a drive and then continue to drive in a single direction for six to eight hours. Just keep going. Stay at a nice inn when you get there. A surprise overnight trip will really tickle her spontaneous bone. Just make sure she doesn’t have anything imperative scheduled for the next day.

You may not normally come up with something fun on a rainy day since the rain has a tendency to produce lethargy, but try breaking out an idea you’ve already thought of and have been saving for a rainy day. She’ll never expect it and won’t be able to shake your intrigue.
Do Something “Crazy” Together
Participate in a flash mob, go windsurfing, sneak into a movie or show, spend a night pretending to be foreign tourists, or do something as simple as attending a new club opening. Do something completely out of the ordinary -- something outside of her normal routine or something she’s likely never done before. Take a walk on the wild side and enjoy the adrenaline rush when she’s out of her element. The bond and memories created by doing something so unusual together will make her think of you fondly and mitigate the boring things you may do later.
Faking It
As a relationship wears on and you’ve heard each other’s most interesting stories, it’s time to create some entertaining stories together. Nobody likes a mundane day-to-day routine, so instead of sharing that aspect of the day, share the unpredictable and the unprecedented. Keeping the illusion of spontaneity in a relationship can stoke the relationship’s passion indefinitely.