How often have you met someone you’re so in love with and you wish, dream and pray that he or she is the person you’ll spend the rest of your days on earth with, then for some reason something happens inside of you and you find yourself rushing the relationship to a premature ending?

My guess is quite a few times. And if you’re reading this, this is probably happening to you right now, or has recently happened to you. You’re not alone — if that’s any comfort.

Almost everyone these days has a “Screw love! I want my (phone call, text message, date, orgasm, commitment, ring, wedding) right now!” attitude towards dating and relationships. To go S-L-O-W-L-Y and let love take it’s natural course seems to be against the grain in our over busy and over stimulated society. It seems so counter intuitive — even scary!

But this “rushing to nowhere” attitude has caused many relationships with great potential to end before they even had a chance to see the light of day. It’s also caused many relationships to struggle on-and-off for several years with no end in sight. But most of all, it’s resulted in many broken hearts and many broken relationship dreams.

Speeding full speed ahead with nothing but expectation, fantasy and determination usually guarantees an abrupt screeching end. When the dust settles, you’re left with dirt grains of what “could have been” and “might have been”.

Relationships never happen or grow through the attempt to make them happen as fast as possible. Rushing a relationship will actually increase the chances of making irreversible mistakes and keeps us reacting to what we do not want instead of creating what we want.

Slowing down on the other hand, allows you to move faster, further and with greater purpose especially when the relationship is just not happening and there seems to be no other option but to give up.

It’s important to keep in mind that “slowing down in order to move things forward faster” is not the same as playing it safe and “waiting until the coast is clear”. If you simply sit back and “wait” for things to work themselves out to your favor, don’t be surprised, upset or hurt when weeks and months later, you find yourself wondering what happened to “slowing down”.

“Slowing down to move things forward faster” is about knowing when to act and not act, what to act on and what to do nothing about. It’s also about having the patience to wait for clarity before acting. Above all, it’s about letting be, and letting love!

Love takes it’s time, you should too. Instead of focusing on speed, focus on love and you’ll see your relationship unfold in ways you never thought possible — E-V-E-R!