secret 3

She thinks fingers can be unpleasant

When using your digits to pleasure your woman, just remember that the entrance to the vagina has a large number of nerve endings compared to deeper inside the vagina — use this knowledge to your advantage. The point is to give her pleasure, so keep to the pleasure zones: the outside entrance to the vagina, just inside the vagina and the G-spot. When manually stimulating her start off with one finger, and after tickling the outside entrance, gently and wetly enter her body. Start stroking in a come-hither motion on the front wall of her vagina. Here you will find her G-spot.  Be gentle; if she wants you to go deeper or harder she will show you by pushing herself onto you. It can get a little uncomfortable for her to have half a hand jamming and slamming away, so always ask before putting another finger in and avoid trying to reach her cervix. Clean, trimmed fingernails are lovely; mucky claws and paws need not apply.  

secret 4

She likes trying new things

There are many things she has always wanted to try, but may never have felt comfortable enough to ask for or to initiate. Things she may be afraid of include: anal sex, anal fingering (you or her), bondage, fisting, outdoor sex, and role playing. None of these are as hard core as you both might think; ordinary people do them all the time with very nice results. A fun and easy way to find out what new things she wants to try out is to swap a sexual to-do list with her. Each of you writes a list of things you would like to try together, then swap it and get busy.

secret 5

She’s horny in the morning

Guys and morning wood have been waking sleeping women since the dawn of time. Generally, it can be safely ignored by the not-so-keen woman by pretending to be asleep. If you want to try a different tack, try sliding your moist erection gently between her thighs, just brushing her vaginal lips. Take a little bit of time, and sure enough, just like a beautiful flower, she will (hopefully) open up and let you in because you are unobtrusively enticing her. The trick to morning sex is getting her from sound asleep to highly aroused before 8 a.m. Oral sex also works very well, but the thigh trick is less effort; do what works best for you. A tip is to moisten your penis before doing anything with it. Saliva or lube works; it takes the hard work out of it for you and replaces that “I just woke up and you're mauling me” feeling with “Oh, that feels nice.” Not everyone is a morning-sex fan, so if your girl isn’t too keen on an early morning rise and shine, there are some easy steps you can take to encourage her without making a scene.  

sexy secrets

There are many other things that women secretly like or dislike, but every woman is different and so are her secret loves and hates. Another way to find out these secrets is to play games. There are board games that encourage some out of the ordinary interaction; this is great for learning how to communicate better with your partner, and for finding out things you would never have thought to ask. Don’t forget: The best sex is always had by partners who can honestly discuss what they want.