We are all curious little creatures, wondering what ever happened to our first high school love who will forever hold the shared memory of our first kiss. It could even be that cute blonde we spent our whole summer with at camp.

Whoever this old girlfriend may be, she is the one that will always leave you wondering how your life could have been, if only you had remained with her.
Puppy Love
You probably remember the moment so vividly: you both sat in your bed, sharing a piece of chocolate cake that your mother brought up to your room for you and your study date. You would look into each other's eyes after every algebra problem, and wonder who was going to initiate that first wet kiss.

And when it finally happened, you both saw sparks fly and wondered if that wasn't the sweetest thing to ever hit your lips. You thought you had found true love in your first -- and now official -- girlfriend.

Blurry vision took over your senses, assuring you that she would be the perfect lover, and not only the first girl you kissed, but also the last. The same way John Travolta kissed Olivia Newton-John in Grease , you thought it would last forever... at least until you laid eyes on that new curly-haired brunette in the neighborhood.

Next thing you knew, you were falling out of love and choosing a "new and improved" best thing, or so you thought. You chose to take a right turn and never look back, at the risk of leaving behind
 the best thing that ever happened to you, all for a taste of something different.
Don't Regret... React
Although there's no use dwelling on the past, a man should always look forward rather than back and learn from his mistakes, if they can even be considered that. Wisdom comes with time, and perfect love comes after many heartbreaks. Unless lady luck met with Cupid to pave your way to romantic happiness, it's likely that you'll need a few attempts before getting it right.

But what if the first time was actually the best one you had? How do you know she was the greatest soul to coincide with yours? For the few of you who got dragged to the movie Sweet November , starring Charlize Theron and Keanu Reeves, you'll know what that whole "soul mate" mumbo-jumbo means.

The problem arises when you don't know whether or not she is your true love, and you only realize her true value once you let her go. Do you take that chance even though you might not be able to get her back? Do you let go and move on, or do you stay with her, just in case? And if you do decide to travel the alternate road, how do you put the pieces back together if you do decide to return?
What Should You Do?
Not to sound melodramatic or anything, but I'm trying to paint a picture of how it may feel to have the love of your life slip through your fingers like the clear sand on the beaches of the Mediterranean. As hard as you try to hang on, once you've let go, it's simply too late.

Is It Love?
Don't confuse love with passion and admiration for a woman. Being infatuated with a woman does not make her the perfect mate for you, when she could really be a poisonous girl who sinks her canines deep into your skin in the hopes of leaving a mark and spreading her addictive venom.

Living for the moment still remains the best way to go, and not just in love. You should be able to plan ahead, but make sure to satisfy your needs at the present time. However, taking continuous breaks from each other is not the way to see if the relationship is worth maintaining.
The Yo-Yo Effect
What many should avoid is playing the yo-yo game in romance, in which the couple breaks up, realizes they can't live without each other, gets back together, and then breaks up again because they were right the first time around.

We all have a friend who's in one of those relationships, afraid that if he lets go, he'll never get another good girlfriend. The problem here is that the guy is settling for his current girlfriend, and potentially not taking the "other" road, which may actually lead to personal happiness.

Like yogurt, some relationships turn sour after a certain date. But the trick lies in the ability to know that it will. Some love stories end with a breakup, but then again, that's perfectly normal.
Circle Of Love
If you're afraid of letting go of something good, don't forget that if it's really worth your while, it will find its way back to you. It always does. But don't wait around for it -- be proactive and make it happen.

If you've had a couple of fights with your girl and think it might be time to break up, think of how you would feel without her by your side. And if you can easily visualize the benefits of it, then you shouldn't have many doubts about pulling the plug.

In this case, travel down the other road and see what the scenery has to offer. Take a good look and indulge. There will be many roads not traveled in life, and many choices to be made, but few of them should reap doubt in your mind. Only time will tell which road wasn't worth taking.

A passage from Robert Frost's epic poem, The Road Not Taken , says it all:

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both...
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.