I am an overweight 24-year-old male. I also happen to have a relatively small penis. I want to know if losing weight will change anything in terms of my endowment.

-Small Big Guy

Dear Small Big Guy,

Losing weight will not necessarily cause your penis to grow. What it will do is give your genitals more room as they will be more easily seen, giving them a larger appearance. Also, losing weight will lead to a healthier lifestyle and allow all aspects of your body to function better, including your erections. Many men claim to have gotten stronger and firmer erections after losing weight. This may also have to do with the added muscle and athleticism of the individual.

We have said it many times before -- men are too focused on their size. If you are not having problems with your urination, erectile function and ejaculation, then you shouldn't be worried. You should be concerned with your weight for other reasons than your penis size. Maintaining a healthy diet and lifestyle will improve many aspects of your life and might even lead to you becoming less concerned with your size.

Travis

Question 2

My problem is one that is the flip side of the premature ejaculation coin. It takes me so long to ejaculate that I often cannot finish because my wife is sore and tired. It makes sex seem like a chore because I know I won't ejaculate. Why is this happening?

-Tired Tim,

Dear Tired Tim,

This is a condition known as retarded ejaculation. This is when a man is able to ejaculate, but only after a length of time that is considered to be too long by him or his partner. This period can vary from 15 minutes to hours, depending on what the individual wants.

While this may sound like a dream come true for many guys, it can actually be quite frustrating. There are a variety of causes, both physical and psychological. The physical reasons range from alcohol and illegal drug use, to medication, including tranquilizers and anti-depressants. High blood pressure can also be a contributing factor leading to retarded ejaculation.

Psychological forces include performance anxiety, depression and fear of pregnancy or sexually transmitted disease. A good way to tell whether your problem is physical or psychological is to compare how long it takes you to ejaculate during sex and how long during masturbation. If you have trouble ejaculating during masturbation, it is a physical problem. If it is only during sex, there is a good chance that it is psychological. For physical problems, your doctor will be able to help. For psychological problems, a sex therapist is in order.

I have been seeing my girlfriend for 6 weeks and everything is fine except for one thing. I love performing oral sex, but she has so much hair, I am completely turned off. How can I tell her this without insulting her? I am thinking about just leaving her and finding someone better suited to my "taste". 

-Pedro

Dear Pedro,

I think it will be much easier to work this out with her than leaving and finding someone else. After all, you said everything else is going well. You should try to turn this into a sexual experience. Tell her what a turn on it is for you and offer to lather her up. 

You can even shave for her if she is willing. It can actually be something she will enjoy doing. Furthermore, the next time you go down on her, she will be sure to keep it nice and tidy from now on.

Travis

Question 4

My husband prefers morning sex while I prefer it at night. Some of my friends have the same story with their boyfriends. Is there a reason why men want it at different times than women?

-Martha,

Dear Martha,

This has to do with the way our hormones work. Studies have shown that men tend to peak in the morning, hence the famous "morning woody". This does not mean that we are not excited at other times, just that our levels vary throughout the day. Also, keep in mind that this will vary greatly across individuals as well. It is not uncommon to find a couple that has the exact opposite schedule as yourselves.