How should a guy react when he's "hooking up" with a woman and she starts saying things like, "I usually don't do this," or "I usually don't move this fast," even though she's obviously into it?

Here, let me ask you something.

What would you do if you were a woman who:

Had a self-image that didn't include "hooking up" with a guy the first night you meet him?


Had a
strong sexual attraction to a guy that you just met, and you wanted to hook up with him the night you met him?

You'd say things like "I'm not this kind of girl" and "I don't usually do this" and "What do you think about this?"

You've asked me what I think of this, and how to respond to it when it happens.

I think it's normal and natural for a woman to behave this way. Get used to it. And as far as responding to this kind of thing, I have a couple of thoughts for you.

Don't expect anything
I think that guys get their hopes up when a woman "comes home" with them, and they get excited about the possibility of hooking up, to the point where they're upset if it doesn't happen.

When you put this much importance on something, you set yourself up for failure, and often do things to cause that failure. When you want something, it costs more. Right?

So don't expect anything. Be okay with whatever happens. Lean back. Chill. Be cool.

So how can you make sure you get the girl?
Make sure she knows
The next step is to let the woman you're with know that whatever happens is cool. Don't push.

When you start using all the different concepts and techniques that you've learned, and you start to smoothly transition from one step to the next, you will start to see women responding very powerfully.

But part of this powerful response will usually be some sort of resistance.

Why?

Because women aren't used to meeting men who know all this stuff. They're not used to being swept away by the powerful sexual emotions that you're triggering with your communication, body language and touch.

I'm not kidding here.

Don't be surprised if some women even get very nervous. Women just aren't used to men who know how to make them feel things this powerfully.

Now, if a woman says, "I don't know if this is a good idea, I don't usually do things like this with a guy I've just met," you basically have a couple of choices.

You can push by trying to convince her, in which case you'll usually meet with resistance, or you can pull back, and then let things start again slowly, which will make it far more likely that things will continue to the next level.

The real key here is to walk into every situation with a woman not expecting anything, or without being overly concerned with the outcome.

Don't worry about it. And expect this kind of thing from women -- it's normal and natural.

What about when a guy is in a relationship and the woman breaks it off? How can he get her back?

I don't usually respond to relationship questions, but I just can't help this one.

When a woman ends a relationship with a man, it's almost always because he has switched into wuss boy mode.

If you're in this situation, you need to get on with your life, stop acting like a wuss, and quit telling her that you'd "do anything to get her back".

I know it's what you feel like saying, but it will only make you look weaker if you keep it up and don't just put it behind you and move on.

If you want to have any chance at all of your relationship working out, you're going to have to quit acting whipped and needy.

Now use what you've learned to go meet some new women and stop acting like a wuss.