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Thursday, April 2, 2015
Signs You’re In A Relationship Vs. Casual Dating
Question: If you are dating someone for 2 months and then she decides to end things, could this be considered a “break up” ? We had sex, if that makes any difference.
Travis:Good question. Now… let’s get “sex” out of the way first… (;
Some 40 or so years ago, the moment you had sex with someone, you were officially “”boyfriend/girlfriend” and therefore in a relationship. People were upfront with each other and it was understood by the other’s actions that the intention was to go for the long haul/get married.
Not anymore! Nowadays, people prefer to “sample the goods first”, then decide if someone is worth a relationship. And it’s not just boys and men doing it anymore, even girls and women are playing the field.
This means that if things are not explicitly communicated, it’s hard to tell when it ends whether it’s a break-up or “just not interested anymore”.
In some situations how long you’ve been seeing each other is relevant but in others it is not. If in the 2 months you were seeing each other once a week or so, and rarely talking in between, technically it was not a “relationship” yet. You were just “seeing” each other to evaluate if the other is worth of a “relationship”
In my opinion, you are “in a relationship” when:
1. You are talking frequently and spending lots of time together, e.g. whole weekends together
2. You both know intimate details about the other and have established a level of trust
3. You’ve both agreed that officially you are now “boyfriend/girlfriend”
4. You’ve both said “I love you” to the other
5. You’ve both introduced the other to close friends and family
6. You both are comfortable enough with each other to let your guards down — and just be yourselves.
7. You’ve both decided you will not be seeing anyone else
8. You’ve at least had one major disagreement and successfully resolved it
9. You’ve had a conversation about where things are headed/future of the relationship
10. The emotional connection between the two of you has continuously grown stronger and more intimate.
If all or at least 8 of these things happened in the 2 months you were together, then it was a “break-up.” But if you didn’t get to the “relationship” level, then consider it, “just not interested anymore”.
That said, it’s really up to two people whether to call it “just hanging out” or “in a relationship”.
Here is the PROBLEM: If you thought you were in “a relationship” and the other person thought that you were “just hanging out” or casually dating, and after the relationship ends, and you try to get him/her back with the mindset of you were in “a relationship”, you are most likely to be unsuccessful because your reality (we were in a relationship) does not match his/her reality (we were casually dating).
Travis:Good question. Now… let’s get “sex” out of the way first… (;
Some 40 or so years ago, the moment you had sex with someone, you were officially “”boyfriend/girlfriend” and therefore in a relationship. People were upfront with each other and it was understood by the other’s actions that the intention was to go for the long haul/get married.
Not anymore! Nowadays, people prefer to “sample the goods first”, then decide if someone is worth a relationship. And it’s not just boys and men doing it anymore, even girls and women are playing the field.
This means that if things are not explicitly communicated, it’s hard to tell when it ends whether it’s a break-up or “just not interested anymore”.
In some situations how long you’ve been seeing each other is relevant but in others it is not. If in the 2 months you were seeing each other once a week or so, and rarely talking in between, technically it was not a “relationship” yet. You were just “seeing” each other to evaluate if the other is worth of a “relationship”
In my opinion, you are “in a relationship” when:
1. You are talking frequently and spending lots of time together, e.g. whole weekends together
2. You both know intimate details about the other and have established a level of trust
3. You’ve both agreed that officially you are now “boyfriend/girlfriend”
4. You’ve both said “I love you” to the other
5. You’ve both introduced the other to close friends and family
6. You both are comfortable enough with each other to let your guards down — and just be yourselves.
7. You’ve both decided you will not be seeing anyone else
8. You’ve at least had one major disagreement and successfully resolved it
9. You’ve had a conversation about where things are headed/future of the relationship
10. The emotional connection between the two of you has continuously grown stronger and more intimate.
If all or at least 8 of these things happened in the 2 months you were together, then it was a “break-up.” But if you didn’t get to the “relationship” level, then consider it, “just not interested anymore”.
That said, it’s really up to two people whether to call it “just hanging out” or “in a relationship”.
Here is the PROBLEM: If you thought you were in “a relationship” and the other person thought that you were “just hanging out” or casually dating, and after the relationship ends, and you try to get him/her back with the mindset of you were in “a relationship”, you are most likely to be unsuccessful because your reality (we were in a relationship) does not match his/her reality (we were casually dating).
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