Men who get into relationships rarely know what to expect as things begin to progress. But if there's one thing women can be sure of, it's that we're likely to treat commitment with disdain.
Me, Scared?
First off, let's be clear that this article pertains to men that have found themselves a great mate, with
whom they wish to be serious. And this usually occurs after four or five months of dating.

Although it won't apply to a player, men can still learn a thing or two about being with the right woman.

Ask yourself; "Do I see myself with this woman in ten years?"

Sometimes, a simple thought-provoking question like this is enough to address some concerns about whether or not you're ready to settle down.
Be Afraid, Be Very Afraid
Many men tend to believe that once things get serious, women will come down on them (no, not in the "good" sense) and expect a very serious relationship.

In this situation, men think that their women will begin to pressure them, and they will need to seek solace at the nearest strip joint.

But it's important to realize that when things begin to get serious, women tend to follow the logical course of action in which the two of you become exclusive and start planning a future together.

My goal here is to help men understand what lies ahead in their romantic endeavors. In other words, if you always think your relationships are not right and things are not going the way they should, then you might actually be the problem, and not the women in your life. This is especially true if all your relationships never make it past the 3-month mark.

Since you might be the catalyst to all your breakups, you must understand the reasons for them in order to rectify what's wrong.
Love Me, Hurt Me
You're stuck in a rut. If one of your past girlfriends cheated on you, you're likely to fear that every following lover will do the same. What you need to do is understand why she cheated. Was she unhappy? Or was she just a skank? Figure it out and close the subject; she's not worth sabotaging every future relationship over.

Learn to judge people on who they are as individuals, don't stigmatize all women simply because of their gender. Aren't you tired of hearing that "all men are pigs"? Then stop lumping the ladies together.
Other Women Still Want You
Ever since you've been dating your lady, other women have been flocking to you like white on rice. It seems that we give off this "I don't care" air when we are involved with someone, and when other women pick up on this nonchalant attitude, we suddenly become the ultimate catch.

What you're probably not understanding is that although your ego leaves you believing that you're all that and then some, in reality you might only be receiving this attention because you have a woman by your side.

If you're living in the "there must be someone better" frame of mind, then don't hang around your present girlfriend until that "perfect" lady comes along. And if you're only feeling that way because a hottie hit on you last week, think hard about what your present woman does for you.

Now that you know some of the reasons behind the fear of commitment, here are some signs why you might flee the premises of a serious relationship like a plump turkey does come Thanksgiving.

Here are the signs that you're running even if she's a keeper...


Signs Of Un-Love
You Become Distant
If you're spending less and less time with your girlfriend, and don't really mind the time apart, this might be a sign that you're drifting away due to your fear of commitment, especially if nothing is wrong within the relationship.

You're Always With Your Buddies
When Friday night with the boys becomes Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, and Saturday night with the boys, then it's time to revise your list of priorities. If you think that spending all that time away from your lover is appropriate, maybe you should ask yourself some questions about whether or not you're happy with your woman.

You Flirt With Other Women
I'm not talking about those innocent visual exchanges with other babes, but rather the textbook definition of flirting and picking up. You know, those times when you look at a woman, walk over to her and start talking about anything under the sun, including the birds and the bees.

When you do hit on other women, take a moment and visualize her doing the same thing behind your back (not with women, I know you'd like that). How would you feel? Point. Set. Match.

Redundant Cafe
Repetitive dates show a lack of evolution and potential commitment. If all you do is take her out to restaurants and movies, this routine might be a negative sign.
How Do I Change?
Now that you're aware that you might be scared of getting seriously involved with your lady lover, what can you do about it? Do you want to go as is, or put forth the effort and resolve the situation?

Modify your screening process
Select only the women that are best suited for you. This doesn't necessarily mean you have to lower your standards, but you should find out all about your lady from the very beginning.

Put her to the test
When she's getting ready to go out with her girlfriends, tell her that you feel really sick. If she ditches her friends to stay home and take care of you, then chances are she's a keeper.

Put time into your relationship
You have to put time and effort into a relationship, just like you do with work, family and friends. Don't assume that a relationship will evolve on its own.

Take things slow
Don't scare yourself into believing you can't make it work with your lady. Take things one day, one hour, one minute at a time with her, and see where life takes you. By managing the relationship in this manner, you'll likely reap positive benefits, and eliminate false expectations.
Is It Worth It?
If you want to overcome your fear of commitment, you have to really desire a steady girlfriend to grow old with. Don't feel pressured by friends and family; make sure you're ready for a serious relationship and follow your gut when it comes to matters of the heart.