Over the years, many guys have asked me, “Dan, why don't women like me? Can you tell me what I am doing wrong?” So, if you’re sitting at home wondering why you haven’t had sex or a girlfriend in months, it might be time to ask yourself the question: Would you date yourself? Why can't you attract a beautiful woman to be your girlfriend, or at least to have some casual sex with you?
Hold on a second! Before you dive in with your carefully crafted list of reasons why you think women't don't like you, take a moment to consider whether your ability to instantly come up with a list of negatives about yourself is perhaps the reason in itself! When a guy asks me, “Dan, why don't women like me?” one of my first responses is to let him know that if he focuses on what he doesn’t have (or what he thinks he doesn’t have) to offer women, it will then result in him lacking the type of confidence that women find most attractive in men. Guys who focus on what they do have to offer women that is valuable and who focus on who they are, what they’re about and where they are going in life are the ones who have all the social confidence and all the girls. Which guy are you? Do you focus on why women don't like you or why they should like you?

If you are the type of guy who can come up with many reasons why women don't like you or wouldn't like you, then you need to stop doing that to yourself right away. It's harmful to your confidence and self-esteem. From today onwards, you need to start looking at all the reasons why women WOULD like you and you also need to start giving women MORE REASONS to like you.


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One of the things that women find most attractive in a man is authenticity. In other words, that you are real and are able to be yourself around her and other people. It sounds like a simple thing to do, “Be yourself” but most guys have a hard time being real and authentic when they interact with women they find attractive. Why? They are afraid that the true version of themselves is not good enough for women, so they put on an act.

As you may have seen, the alpha males who have that raw, easy-going confidence are the ones who always seem to have women lusting after them. Guys who put on an act of confidence may be able to get a bit of initial attraction and interest, but women are always able to see through it after a minute or so of conversation. So, the solution is not to pretend to confident and alpha, but to actually be confident and alpha for real. If you want women to like you, you actually need to be confident for real – it can't be an act. You need to be able to flirt and have great conversations with them for real. You will never succeed with women by trying to learn a quick pick up line or a few witty things to say. It will be your ability to keep a conversation going and keep it interesting anytime and on any topic that will really impress a woman.


Essentially, if you've noticed that women really don't tend to like you much more than a friend, you need to focus on becoming more sexually and emotionally attractive to women. If women don't find you attractive, they just won't be interested – that part of it is pretty simple to explain. Here's a quick comparison table to help you understand what counts when it comes to your attractiveness.