Love experts usually give advice about how to pick up and get the girl, and how to smooth her into your palace of pleasure. But very few actually tell you how to be part of a successful couple.

Who has ever coached you on taking a break from your girlfriend? Probably no one, right? The option is always there though. Allow me to explain why you should take advantage of it, if needed.
Let Me Go, Come Back
Men are so preoccupied with trying to get the woman of their dreams that few actually keep their newest lady, and end up getting what might just be "the perfect girl," over and over again. It's the vicious circle of dating, my friends.

But how do you keep your lady by your side for the longest of times, and find out whether she is indeed Ms. Right? Taking a break might just do the trick.
Love Me, Hate Me
The more time you spend with a person, the more you learn about their good and not-so good sides, which yields the possibility that you'll need some distance from each other's positives and negatives.

Spending time apart is not necessarily a bad thing. Granted, if you spend four months out of the year taking some time off, then something's definitely off.

Taking a little break can be seen as a rejuvenation of the relationship, so that you can return to each other stronger and healthier.

The goal of a break is to test the couple. Relationships constitute a multitude of implied tests whose purpose is to solidify or destroy the union. It's important to know whether two people would survive a bunch of "ifs" and "maybes."
When Do You Take A Break?
If you think this is a "get out of jail free" card, guess again. The goal here is not to buy yourself a couple of weeks or months to wander the streets of celibacy. Rather, its mission is to see if what you have with your woman is worth keeping.

This is not your excuse to cheat on your lover, but rather your chance to see whether you can live without her. If you feel you can't, then that's a good sign. If, on the other side, you simply can't wait for that next "mutual break," then you might have a problem.

Just like passing the 3-month mark pivotal point, this big step can make or break the relationship.
The Heart Grows Fonder...
Affection develops exponentially when two beings that care for each other are separated, and what better way than to do so voluntarily? This preventive method reduces the damages of a forced separation that can cause much harsher repercussions.

When you break down this method into smaller units, it comes down to saying that you shouldn't spend every other second with your lover. Not taking time apart from each other is as harmful as spending all your time together.

This will help you realize whether you enjoy the other person's presence and the way she makes you eggs for breakfast, or if the eggs simply don't taste as good when she's not there, even if they're prepared exactly the same way.

Do you need each other, or like each other? This acquired taste for one another is something that grows like wild flowers.

Let's say that you're now sold on the idea of parting ways on a temporary basis; how do you bring it up?


Once again, keep in mind that this break should not be considered as a chance to see the female sights and apply everything you've learned from The Player, but rather test how strong your relationship is.

This is exactly how you should bring up the idea of taking a temporary break to your girlfriend. You're not misleading her; you're simply offering her a new option to make sure everything continues to go well (how thoughtful do you sound now?).

You can compare this to taking your car for an oil change; you could probably drive another few thousand miles on the same one, but this precautionary method will ensure that your car keeps running smooth for years to come.

once you're apart...


As tempting as it may seem, having sex, kissing another woman or even getting a prostitute will not reap the same benefits as having a stable and honest relationship, and defeats the purpose of a break. However, if you're into swinging, that's a different story.

But for more traditional couples, break time can just mean going out with friends and meeting new people. No more, no less.

Taking a temporary leave of absence is not recommended after a mere couple of months of dating. This is the kind of step that should be executed at least 6 months into a relationship. Anything shorter than this timeframe can signify that you're simply not meant to be an item.

Setting a date to get back together is also a good idea, but leaving the situation up in the air can be a fun test of who can hold out the longest before giving in and calling the other.

Wait and see how long you can go without playing with her hair and kissing her neck. This can be an exciting little game, but don't let it drag on forever, even if you're the competitive type who always has to win.

getting back together


As important as the simulated breakup in question is, getting back together is a big step in which the lovebirds meet and give into each other. You've heard of make-up sex, so get ready for this: you'll be begging for more of these time-outs.

Have fun with each other and love life.