Relationships are made up of many small stages like the first date, the first kiss and the first sexual encounter. And along the same line comes having "the talk"; probably the most significant step prior to getting hitched.

We've all heard about this so-called talk, but what does it really entail?
What Is The Talk?
The talk is that conversation, sometimes not all that well thought out, that's required in all relationships. For many, it simply means letting your woman know you're exclusive, and you're not looking elsewhere to please your pecker -- among other things.

However, the most important aspect of this talk is to come forth and divulge your true feelings for that person. If your girlfriend knows you care deeply about her and are ready to make major sacrifices, then this is simply a vocal acknowledgement.

Considering that men rarely open up that can of worms better known as "feelings," it's important to be clear and let her know that you're serious about her. Although you might be taking your lady out to dinner and doing all the things a decent boyfriend should do, holding her hand, staring into her eyes and revealing how much you care about her (or saying you love her) will serve as a better way to get the point across.

In other words, don't make her read between the lines; be blunt about your feelings and intentions towards her. It's quite likely that she has been feeling the same way and is just waiting for this window of opportunity to reciprocate her feelings.

Make the first move and set the grounds for an honest and straightforward communication channel. But don't do things out of pressure; be sure that you mean what you're about to say.
Don't Feel Pressured
The point of this talk is to be honest and relay true emotions; don't blurt out clichés and say things just because you're sure that's what she wants to hear.

If she loves you, you're not obliged to love her back. In other words, you shouldn't give into emotional intimidation, especially under these benchmarking episodes.

You want to have the talk, but how do you go about it?


Planning The Talk
The Timing
Although some men jump into exclusive relationships blindly, I strongly suggest taking things slowly and making sure your woman keeps winning over pieces of your heart as you move along.

Even though there's no predetermined time frame for this conversation, anywhere from two to eight months is appropriate. If it takes you six weeks to fall in love, and if you're sure the feeling is mutual, then go ahead with it. And remember, being patient and confident will prevent awkward situations for both of you.

The Location
Keeping a low profile is recommended for these encounters; if things don't go as planned, you don't want the whole world to know.

Go on a date with her as you normally would (don't go to a fancy restaurant, if you never do so). Remember, she will notice that something is different and will likely anticipate a declaration of some kind.

Be it your basement, restaurant or park bench, if the time feels right, do it.

The Wording
You don't necessarily have to propose to her, but tell her things along the lines of:
"I want you to know that I wouldn't change anything about our relationship. I am not perfect, nor do I expect you to be, and that's why we're good together."
"It's times like these that I'm glad I ran into you at [insert meeting place]."
"I want to thank you for all the happiness you've brought into my life, and I want you to know that I will reciprocate everything tenfold in our future together."
I know you might think some of these sound lame, but if you really mean them, she'll just see them as honest displays of your affection, and not a cheesy attempt to look good.

On a side note, saying "I love you" is a major step and once those words are out there, you can't take them back. Be careful with your words and save them for another milestone.
What She Wants
Understanding your woman and communicating openly are integral parts of any lasting relationship.

You have to understand what she expects from a relationship and boyfriend. Who knows, she might have a secret agenda in store for her lover.

You don't have to get into this deep conversation simply because she's anticipating it, but perhaps considering it is not a bad idea. But let me repeat myself once again: do not say anything you don't really feel at the time. It's better that she wait for the real thing from you, rather than you saying something you may live to regret.
What Happens After?
Pending she doesn't turn around and stab you with the "I just want to be friends" reply, you've done a good job.

Now that your feelings are out in the open, neither of you really holds the wild card anymore. This means that you shouldn't hold anything back from each other, which could only end up hurting the bottom line anyway.

This said, remember that relationships are made up of the sum of small stages, and that each is the result of the previous outcome.