To Get a Girl Out On a Date With Texts

To get a guy out on a date, all a girl has to do is ask him out.
But for a guy to get a girl to go out on a date him by text, he has to do things very differently.
However, there are some little tricks I want to teach you to minimize the rejections, flaking and disinterest that I know plague so many text conversations.
First and foremost…
For maximum success, ask out girls that you think already like you.
If you only ask out girls that you like—but don’t like you—you’ll have less chance of success.
Before texting, have an idea for a date already planned. Know what you’d like to do with her, where you guys can go and when it’s going to take place.
Don’t offer up vague date ideas to her like “Want to hang out sometime?” Doing this makes it very likely that she’ll either say no or flake out on you.
If you just met her recently, then try make the first date something short but social and interactive, like having drinks together.
It’s usually a good idea not go to a movie or somewhere that’s new to the both of you for the first time because these can get awkward pretty easily and then it won’t be fun for either of you.
Here are some examples you can use to ask a girl out on a date with text:
“I’m thinking about grabbing a coffee somewhere. Wanna join me?”
“I need a Starbucks right now. Meet me there!”
“So which Starbucks have you NOT been to yet?”
“Wanna get buzzed? As in caffeine?”
“I need a coffee. You want a coffee. I’m sure we can find a compromise.”
“Let’s get ice cream somewhere.”
“I’m thinking about having dinner for my last meal of the day. You thinking the same?
“I like you. I think you like me too. Let’s go have dinner at a nice restaurant.”
Before asking her out, start the conversation with some small talk and ask casual questions about her day or what she’s been up to lately to gauge her level of interest and mood.
If she seems to be in a good mood and open to chilling, then ask her out.
But if she seems upset for some reason or just not interested, then don’t ask her out.
Simple.
To increase your chances of getting her to say yes to a date, give her specific time options so her thinking goes from “Do I want to?” to “What time is good for me?”
When she says yes, end the conversation and let her know what you’re doing to do to have everything ready and then tell her you’ll see her later.
If she says no, then say it was good talking to her and end the conversation. Unless of course, if after saying no, she offers up other alternatives, then find something else that you guys can do.

How To Get a Girl Who Has Stopped Texting You To Start Texting You Back Again

Before you even read this section, I highly recommend that you watch my video on self-control when it comes to texting and girls:
If you’re trying to get a girl who has stopped texting you to start texting you again, then you’ve got to re-engage.
Start by sending her a simple text that is fun, playful and doesn’t require a quick response.
Always make your texts fun, laid back and lighthearted. Never try to get a girl to text you back by using guilt or begging. These tactics never work.
Don’t ask her why she’s not texting you. Don’t even acknowledge it. Instead, try to make her laugh by making up crazy and outrageous reasons for why she hasn’t texted you in a while.
Here are some examples that you can use to get a girl who has stopped texting you to text you back again:
“Your responses are too fast for me. Slow down speedy!”
“Did you faint after receiving that last text from me. It happens. So what else is new?”
“Hey there! Haven’t heard from you in a while. Get kidnapped by E.T. and his pals or something?”
“I didn’t get your Christmas card this year? What’s up? You just not celebrating this one?”
“Hey there Sleeping Beauty. Time for you to wake up. Can I get you a toothbrush?”
“You fall down a rabbit hole and get captured by an army of playing cards? Need me to come down there and show that Queen of Hearts who’s boss?”
“Oh no. Did I miss your birthday? Was that this year again? Nevermind. Happy Birthday!”
If you make a joke out of her not texting you, you’ll be showing her that you’re not holding any hard feelings and then she won’t be worried about replying.

How To Get The Sexting Started

Sexting is a great way to get a girl excited about seeing you. More importantly, sexting makes whatever you want to do with her much easier to get started in person.
It’s also a great way to learn her likes and dislikes ahead of time.
If you’ve been flirting with a girl but haven’t kissed her yet, sexting can help make this happen because she’ll get warmed up to the idea.
Sexting is the modern day love letter. When done right, you can build up her anticipation of seeing you so that she can hardly wait to be with you and tear her clothes off.
Sexting is fun and exciting for girls because they get to show a side of themselves that they don’t normally get to.
It’s also great entertainment for any two people who are horny and bored. And with the mandatory wait between messages to build suspense, sexting can be better than porn.
No matter how close or how far apart the two of you are, with the right use of sexting you can seduce a girl to the point that she can’t stop thinking about having sex with you.
The best part about sexting isn’t the sexting itself. It’s the night-long sex sessions that follow…

So, yeah. Sexting is a great idea. But you need to do it right, or else you’ll blow your chances of being with her forever.
You need to test a girl before you start sexting to know if she’s OK with it.
And the best way to do this is by subtly getting her aroused with sexual but casual texts.
A few examples:
“Hey you, I was just about to take a long hot shower. What are you up to?”
“I really liked what you were wearing the other night.”
“Girl, I wish you were here right now.”
Say things like this only after you’ve had some longer conversations and you can tell that she’s getting more interested in you.
For the audio/visual learners in the audience, I posted an awesome video covering some of these sexting principles:
Pay attention to the details. Ask her what she likes and talk about doing this to get her excited and wanting to do it.
After texting sexual stuff with her for a while, it’s alright to ask for pics…but don’t get desperate. This tends to turn women off and makes it unlikely that you’ll get anything.
Take it slow. If you start sexting with her before she’s ready, she’ll start to think of you as creepy and offensive. So be patient and follow her lead.
Don’t be selfish. Just like with real sex, there should be equal parts of giving and receiving. If you’re not sharing as much as she is, she might feel cheated…and that means no more pics for you.
When sexting, be real about your intentions. Don’t lead her on just to get what you want or else she’ll get offended and move on.
Tease as much as you can. Be creative about turning her on to build up her anticipation in seeing you by leaving some things to the imagination.
Also, when sharing intimate pics, be careful about those unique identifiers you have, such as birthmarks, tattoos or your face, just in case anything goes wrong.
And it’s usually a good idea to delete your sexting conversations, especially if you’re around people who shouldn’t be seeing them like kids, or co-workers or family members.
Keep in mind, all your texts and pics and recorded in a database somewhere, and when they’re sent out, they can’t be taken back. When it doubt, don’t send it out.
With that being said, you should definitely be sexting when the time is right. There’s no better way to build anticipation for the act itself.

The Biggest Mistakes To Avoid When Texting Girls

Listed below are some of the most common mistakes that most guys make when it comes to texting girls.
If you make just one these mistakes, you can turn what was initially an exciting encounter with a girl into a boring and frustrating “never going to go anywhere” friendship.
Luckily, these are all easy to avoid.
1. Not Texting With Enough Girls
Whenever a guy is texting only one girl, he usually gets into a scarcity mindset that causes him to get overly invested in every text.
To avoid getting into this situation you should be texting lots of girls at the same time.
When you’re texting many women and not expecting anything from any one of them, you’ll have a more carefree and fun attitude that women will find sexy and attractive.
2. Always Being The First One To Text
If you’re always texting her first, she won’t be that excited about receiving messages because she’ll always be expecting them.
But if you can be patient and let her text you first, you won’t look desperate and needy.
A good rule of thumb for texting a girl back is however long she takes to reply back to your texts, take twice that long to reply back to hers.
3. Sending Texts That Serve No Purpose
The more guys a girl has texting her, the more often she’s receiving the same type of texts and the more your texts need to be different for you to stand out.
Make sure all your texts offer value to her and shows your unique personality. Make them fun and interesting. Be different.
4. Coming On Too Strong and Too Soon 
Don’t think too much.
Just text her when you have something to say. Your texts should sound natural and organic.
Don’t go overboard on how you feel about her or she’ll see you as needy, clingy, and desperate.
5. Texting Her Too Often
If you text a girl too often, it comes off as being needy and takes all of the excitement out of flirting.
6. Giving Up Too Early
When a guy texts a girl and he doesn’t get one back from her right away, very often he’ll get frustrated and think she’s not interested and give up.
But the real reason he hasn’t heard from her…could be anything.
She could be too busy at the moment to text back, or she could be in a bad mood, or her battery is dead, or she doesn’t have a signal.
Don’t always assume the worst and don’t expect a girl to text you back right away. It kills the attraction.
7. Taking Her Texts Too Seriously
Nobody enjoys having a serious conversation over text. Keep those type of chats to in-person talks only.
Keep your texts to her fun and playful.
8. Using Text To Avoid Having Real Conversations
A lot of people today are apprehensive when it comes to having real world conversations.
Show her that you’re different by calling her every once in a while and talking to her.
Don’t use text as your sole means of communicating with a girl. Use it in conjunction with real world talking.
9. Sending Her Needless Texts
Don’t text a girl if you don’t really need to. When she says “I’ll see you later” you don’t need to say anything else back to her other than “Later.” Even better, don’t say anything at all.
When you text a girl back every time and right away, saying whatever you can think of, she’ll sense your neediness and lose interest.
10. Letting Your Conversations With Her Drag On Too Long
 If you let your conversations drag on too long you’ll run out of things to say.
Make her wanting more by ending conversations at a high point.
After you’ve been texting for a while, and you feel good about how she’s responding, end it with something flirty like, “As much as I like where this is going, I have to go.”
Don’t tell her exactly what you have to do. Create some mystery and intrigue by being vague, spontaneous, and unpredictable with your texts.
This is what will get her thinking about you long after you’ve been texting.
11. Thinking Too Much
 Don’t spend more than minute thinking about what to text.
Just send what you want to say go back to what you were doing before.
12. Getting Stuck In a Rut
Don’t get stuck making idle chit chat for very long or else you’ll get banished to the friend zone.
Always move things along, always be flirting.
This video I put together perfectly illustrates what I think are the most common texting mistakes men make:
Keep your texts exciting, keep building anticipation, move towards a meet-up.
The alternative is boredom and and empty inbox.

How To End Your Texts

Just like when you’re talking to a girl in person, enjoy your conversation with her and end it before things get quiet by telling her that you have to go.
Always end your texts before there’s nothing left to talk about…not after.
The best places to end a conversation are at a high point, such as when she’s laughing or writing a long text.
Get her thinking about you after you’re done texting—tell her what you’re going to do next, or what the two of you will do together later.
If you’re going to meet up with her for drinks, say “I’ll be over at the far end of the bar with a drink in my hand.”
If you’re not going to see her soon, then plant a picture of you in her mind by telling her what you’re going to do or where you’re going. And be sure to make these pictures interesting!
Set up your next opportunity to text her by saying that you’ll message her again later about whatever it was you guys were talking about.
Example: “I have to go now but I’ll text you more about this later. Bye.”
If your texting and flirting with her was going really well and she’s interested in seeing you, then take things to the next level by asking her out.
If it’s during the day, then keep it light and friendly by saying something like “Hey, what are you doing right now? Let’s meet up. Are you hungry?”
If it’s the evening then say something more forward and enticing like “What are your plans tonight? Want to grab dinner or drinks somewhere?”
The best way to have these invitations work, is by putting them at the end of a text and not be the entire text itself.
Example: “Yeah I love the Seahawks too. Hey, what are you doing right now? Let’s meet up.”
By keeping your invitations to her casual like this, it relieves the pressure of an official date and makes it much more likely that she’ll go along with whatever you suggest.
If you find yourself doing most of the texting or all the replying back, or all you’re getting from her are one-word responses, then it’s time to stop texting.
If you’re trying to think of something to say but not coming up with anything, then it’s time to stop texting.
And if you’re always the one texting first, and trying to move things along but keep getting a bunch of excuses, then it’s probably time to stop texting her for good.

Conclusion

The tips in this guide are here to help you get better with texting girls you like so that they stay interested in you, solidify their existing attraction for you, and (of course) want to meet up in person.
They’re also here to help you realize what you may be doing wrong with the girl you’re texting, so you don’t keep beating your head against the wall waiting for a change.
If you want to see a sample conversation using some of the techniques I discussed here, check out this video I put together:
Keep these tips in mind and you’ll see just how easy texting—and setting up dates—can be.
To your success,
Tripp