Once upon a time, Jack and Jill got married and lived happily ever after... or so they say. Life after marriage can become repetitive and dull at moments. In order to keep a marriage strengthened, couples must evolve together and learn to keep the fire burning well after the honeymoon.

But being spontaneous doesn't necessarily have to be sexual to be effective; it can also mean doing something that your wife wouldn't expect unless it was her birthday or anniversary. These little gestures can seem mundane on the surface, but they are extremely effective in keeping the marriage
 alive and kicking.

1. Incognito Flowers
Buying your woman a nice bouquet of flowers can get as romantic as you want it to; it doesn't have to be cheesy and predictable. Have some flowers delivered to her office right before her lunch break with a little note attached reading "Meet me at the corner coffee shop for lunch."

The effect of the flowers followed by the impromptu lunch will have her smiling for the rest of the day, eagerly awaiting 5:00pm to thank you in private.

2. Buy Her Lingerie
Reviving the flame in the marriage means making each other feel good. As long as your wife feels sexy and appreciated, then your job is done. And what better way to get the job done than to buy her some lingerie?

Even if your wife might not feel as sexy as when she was in Junior High, you're only a compliment away from making her feel that sexy. By getting her a lacy negligee or a French maid outfit, she will understand that you want to see her wearing it, which is a compliment in itself.

Women love it when men prove their affection. It's like they've been saying all along; actions speak louder than words, baby .

3. 'Till Death Do Us Part... Again
On many occasions, just the idea of being married gives couples a great deal of distress and anxiety. Even if eloping only means you have legally declared your love for each other, a sense of routine and been there, done that still sets in.

Remember when you just got married and you couldn't get your hands off each other? Well, renewing your vows will have the same effect. All you have to do is take some time off for a second honeymoon and you're set. Enjoy the ride.

4. Spontaneity Is My Middle Name
As aforementioned, anything that involves a break in routine is great. Although you have to do some planning on your side, she will still see spontaneity as a novel approach. All that counts is that she's surprised, since you'll give her the immediate emotional satisfaction, while you'll receive the eventual physical satisfaction.

Take her out to a movie, drive out of town to a secluded chalet; do whatever suits you, but put your heart into it.

5. Scrap This!
A first-rate married life is made up of memories and good times, and having a photo album helps revive those happy moments you shared together. Why not have a scrapbook of all the little things since your first date?

Let her know that you cherish the little memories. The fact that you still have the movie stub from your first date and the first birthday card she wrote you will be enough to melt her heart.

Cherishing these acts of love reinforces the fact that you think the world of them, and most importantly, her. But remember that things like used condoms and toothbrushes are not highly recommended (for obvious reasons), even if they are filled with fond memories.6. Pooch Preference
A furry little animal might be what she's longing for. A pet dog is a great idea if she loves dogs, but naming it after her grandmother Thelma because you love her homemade brownies, might not be.

Be careful with this one: in the same way that she might love the idea of a pet, she can easily get offended with it, and may be annoyed if she is never home and won't have the time to care for it.

7. Getaway Bed & Breakfast
A simple change of scenery is another great way to break the monotony of marriage. Leave early on a Friday afternoon, drive off to the country and rent a chalet for the weekend.

While your wife is at work on Friday, pack the bags and pick her up a few hours early (arrange it with her boss in advance, of course).

Make sure to keep the getaway a secret so that she is pleasantly surprised.

8. Nothing Says I Love You Like...
Getting her that golden bracelet or that suede jacket that she has been eyeing is a great way to let her know that you're actually listening when she speaks!

You'll be killing two birds with one stone: she'll be happy about the gift, and will realize that you pay attention to the little things. But don't make a habit of getting her unexpected gifts because she will only get accustomed to it. The key is to surprise her -- but don't merely lavish her with gifts when you screw up.

9. Write All About It
Receiving sexy e-mail at work is a great way to get the workday going. Imagine a picture of your wife in, or out, of seductive clothing, along with a list of ten things she wants to do to you. Just be careful about this one since some workplaces can view employees' e-mail.

Of course, this can work both ways. You can put an enticing message in her lunch bag and she'll be daydreaming about you while munching on her chicken sandwich.

10. First Time Sex
Nothing beats the thrill of first time sex. So why not set out for a quick drink at the local bar and take on the roles of single people picking each other up? Approach her and lure her into your mischievous antics.

Drive back to your place or a motel and have a "one-night stand". An evening of uninhibited sex is sometimes all that couples need to refuel the fire in their relationships.

So for all of you that think you are having problems with your girlfriend or wife, whatever the case may be, one of these pointers will do wonders for your love life. If you don't feel the need for them, remember that prevention is always a better treatment.