You go out on a date. It doesn't work out. Next weekend, you meet another woman. Again, it doesn't work out. It just seems like nothing is working out. Then, for a long period of time, you don't meet anyone. You begin to get anxious and nervous: "Will anything ever happen? Am I pathetic for being single for so long?" All you can think about is how badly you need and want a relationship.

Then -- finally -- you meet a woman, and it feels promising. You're dating, you're going out, you're sleeping together. She's meeting your friends. The problem is, she's not right for you. You fight a lot, but still you fall for her because you've finally found someone to share your time with. You're going steady, starting to form a real relationship, but it feels like a bit of a struggle. Like you have to try really hard to keep her.

Then the inevitable happens. She breaks your heart into a million pieces and smashes it to the ground. You are crushed.
Revenge Dating
So what do you do now? You swallow the pain. You ignore your feelings. Instead, you now want revenge on your girlfriend -- well, ex-girlfriend. You want revenge on every woman who's ever faulted you, every woman who has ever caused you any pain and misery. Any woman who has ever hurt you in the past is now going to get payback through all the women out there whom you haven't met yet.

You're on a mission to get back at the women who have hurt you. You tell yourself that you're just going to go out and sleep with them, use them, abuse them, and have your way with them. You're going to get even with all the women who have never called you back, all the women who rejected you in a bar, and, most of all, your last girlfriend, who hurt you and broke your heart.

How does this sound to you? Have you ever had these feelings? Does it sound healthy, does it sound sane, does it sound right? Getting revenge on new people for what you went through in the past is ridiculous. The reason why you got hurt in the first place is because you weren't aware of the woman you were with. You were dating based out of need.

Whenever this happens, you're going to be blind to that person's true colors. You're likely to find somebody who will take advantage of you. Why? Because they have the upper hand and you don't. You'll tolerate anything to keep those women in your life. So of course they're going to use you and take advantage of you. And, eventually, your heart is going to be broken.
Get Over It Like A Man
Here's the reality: You can't take revenge on new people. They're innocent, and they have nothing to do with your frustrations with the past. If you start down that road, you're creating another cause and effect. You're going to start working with "dating karma." Eventually, you're going to meet somebody you actually like, and guess what's going to happen? She's going to do to you exactly what you have done to others.

After going through a bad relationship, you need to process it and not seek revenge on your ex-girlfriend. You need to figure out what went wrong, and you need to start taking responsibility for your part in killing that relationship. That's right, start taking responsibility for your faults in that relationship. Look deeper into how your actions have affected things.

As far as not getting a second date, do you know how many men and women don't get second dates? It's not just you. Who cares? I say 9 out of 10 dates may never result in a second date, so it doesn't matter. There was just no chemistry, no mutual feeling, no spark -- it could be any reason at all.

When you're dating, you need to have a powerful mindset to be successful in making things work. You need to believe in abundance, and you need to love yourself. If you don't love yourself, you're going to constantly have dates that bomb, relationships that fizzle out and that make you want to take revenge.