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Friday, May 24, 2013
No Self-Doubt, Ask Her Out
Is There A Way A Guy Can Be Absolutely Sure To Get A Good Response When He Approaches A Woman?
You're asking a question that every guy in the world wants to know the answer to.
It's a simple answer... and it's a damn complex answer at the same time.
The most important key to approaching women you don't know is being able to do it as comfortably and naturally as when you call your mom.
If you get nervous, shaky and freaked out, the woman will pick up on this, and it will make her nervous.
You can walk up to a woman and say, "Hi, I don't have time to talk, but if you're single, I'd really like to talk to you sometime, do you have e-mail?"... and if you do it in a calm, comfortable way, you can get a high percentage of women to give you their info right there on the spot with no conversation needed.
On the other hand, if you're freaked out, nervous and acting like you're all jacked up on speed while driving a getaway car, it doesn't matter what you say.
Experts estimate that approximately 7% of your communication is the words you use, and 93% is your voice tone and body language.
In other words, the words aren't that important.
So how do you get the voice tone and body language under control, and more importantly, your emotions?
Well, this is a simple and complex problem as well.
I have personally found that understanding exactly how and why women feel sexual attraction for men has changed the way I interact with women dramatically.
If you don't understand this important process, you're just going to be "faking" it. If you do understand it, you're going to be communicating differently, and communicating with a different part of the woman.
Keep educating yourself. An education in this area will help transform your fear and hesitation into action.
What is the best way to ask a woman out? In Your Opinion, What Is The Very Best Way For A Guy To Ask A Woman Out?
Well, the first thing to remember is that when you ask a woman out, you immediately start a whole chain of mental and emotional events for a woman.
She has to decide if she "likes you" and if there could ever be anything between the two of you, and if she's thirsty and interested in free beer.
You get my drift?
Women know when you're asking them "out," as in you're asking them because you have a romantic interest.
Guess what? When you do this, it also puts the woman in the driver's seat in the situation, because she instantly realizes that she has something you want.
Have you ever heard of "wanting it tax?" It's when the price goes up the more you want it.
So what should you do instead?
Remember: Most guys do the exact same things. They start talking to a woman, then they say, "Hey, can I take you out sometime?" or "Do you have a boyfriend?"
This stuff is horrible.
It does exactly the wrong thing. It makes you look like a wuss that needs a girlfriend. And if she's not interested (which she probably won't be), then it will create some discomfort in the future.
Much better to test first, then take a small step .
If it's a woman you know, tease her, bust on her, and generally act like you don't care. Make a comment about her and walk away. Be cocky & funny when you're with her, and don't be boring.
Then, if she's responding positively (laughing, hitting you, telling you that you're a pain, etc.), then say, "Hey, do you have e-mail?"
If she does, have her write it down, then say "bye."
From a man's perspective, this might not seem any different than just asking a woman out.
But from the woman's perspective, it's very different.
First of all, you've never shown her any romantic interest, which means you don't give up your power in the situation and hand it all to her.
Second, instead of putting "dating" pressure on her, you've only asked her for her e-mail address (and maybe her number as well).
But you haven't asked her on a date, you haven't created any weird vibes in the air, and you have made her wonder what you have in mind.
It's powerful, think about it.
You're asking a question that every guy in the world wants to know the answer to.
It's a simple answer... and it's a damn complex answer at the same time.
The most important key to approaching women you don't know is being able to do it as comfortably and naturally as when you call your mom.
If you get nervous, shaky and freaked out, the woman will pick up on this, and it will make her nervous.
You can walk up to a woman and say, "Hi, I don't have time to talk, but if you're single, I'd really like to talk to you sometime, do you have e-mail?"... and if you do it in a calm, comfortable way, you can get a high percentage of women to give you their info right there on the spot with no conversation needed.
On the other hand, if you're freaked out, nervous and acting like you're all jacked up on speed while driving a getaway car, it doesn't matter what you say.
Experts estimate that approximately 7% of your communication is the words you use, and 93% is your voice tone and body language.
In other words, the words aren't that important.
So how do you get the voice tone and body language under control, and more importantly, your emotions?
Well, this is a simple and complex problem as well.
I have personally found that understanding exactly how and why women feel sexual attraction for men has changed the way I interact with women dramatically.
If you don't understand this important process, you're just going to be "faking" it. If you do understand it, you're going to be communicating differently, and communicating with a different part of the woman.
Keep educating yourself. An education in this area will help transform your fear and hesitation into action.
What is the best way to ask a woman out? In Your Opinion, What Is The Very Best Way For A Guy To Ask A Woman Out?
Well, the first thing to remember is that when you ask a woman out, you immediately start a whole chain of mental and emotional events for a woman.
She has to decide if she "likes you" and if there could ever be anything between the two of you, and if she's thirsty and interested in free beer.
You get my drift?
Women know when you're asking them "out," as in you're asking them because you have a romantic interest.
Guess what? When you do this, it also puts the woman in the driver's seat in the situation, because she instantly realizes that she has something you want.
Have you ever heard of "wanting it tax?" It's when the price goes up the more you want it.
So what should you do instead?
Remember: Most guys do the exact same things. They start talking to a woman, then they say, "Hey, can I take you out sometime?" or "Do you have a boyfriend?"
This stuff is horrible.
It does exactly the wrong thing. It makes you look like a wuss that needs a girlfriend. And if she's not interested (which she probably won't be), then it will create some discomfort in the future.
Much better to test first, then take a small step .
If it's a woman you know, tease her, bust on her, and generally act like you don't care. Make a comment about her and walk away. Be cocky & funny when you're with her, and don't be boring.
Then, if she's responding positively (laughing, hitting you, telling you that you're a pain, etc.), then say, "Hey, do you have e-mail?"
If she does, have her write it down, then say "bye."
From a man's perspective, this might not seem any different than just asking a woman out.
But from the woman's perspective, it's very different.
First of all, you've never shown her any romantic interest, which means you don't give up your power in the situation and hand it all to her.
Second, instead of putting "dating" pressure on her, you've only asked her for her e-mail address (and maybe her number as well).
But you haven't asked her on a date, you haven't created any weird vibes in the air, and you have made her wonder what you have in mind.
It's powerful, think about it.
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