Last weekend, I went for dinner with a girl that works in my building. We had a few drinks with our meal and decided to go to a nearby nightclub for some dancing. This led to a few more drinks, and we were both having a great time. To make a long story short, we ended up at her place while things were getting hot and heavy. Then it happened: she climbed on top of me, and she didn't exactly receive a standing ovation . I'm 29 years old and I have never had any trouble getting it up, so what happened? 

-"Hung" Over

Dear "Hung" Over,

First off, erection difficulties affect almost all men at some point in their lives. Factors th

at affect your ability to stand and deliver include age, stress, health problems, drugs and alcohol. In your particular case, it was probably due to the alcohol you consumed that night. It is most likely not permanent, and things should go back to normal for you.

Many people confuse alcohol as an aphrodisiac, when in reality, it can also be a hindrance to good sex. At first, a few drinks can increase one's sociability as well as their libido, and shed one's sexual inhibitions. However, after a night of heavy drinking, it can be difficult to achieve and maintain an erection, control ejaculation, and decrease your stamina. It also makes you dizzy and less attentive to your partner's needs. 

For women, alcohol can make lubrication more difficult and also lessen her pleasure by decreasing her sensations. The effects alcohol has on your body can put a damper on your sex life. Use it in moderation to keep your sex life enjoyable. After all, all you need are a few drinks to set the mood. 

I have been married to my wife for 7 years, and we have a fulfilling and enjoyable sex life. Our marriage is healthy and going strong as we have a good communication. I am 32, she is 34. My question for you concerns the number of times she has orgasms. Every time we have sex, she has up to six or seven orgasms, sometimes even within half an hour. She has never slept with anyone else, so she has no past experience to go on, but her friends say they have fewer orgasms than she does. Not that I'm complaining, but is this normal? Is she oversexed ?

-Lucky Guy

Dear Lucky Guy,

There is nothing to worry about. All this means is that she is comfortable with herself and with you. She feels free to open up and enjoy herself, without feeling inhibited. This is most likely due to your good communication . Most of my patients complain about he opposite; that their wives cannot have orgasms at all. You shouldn't worry about this. Be happy knowing that you must be doing something right. Keep it up!

My girlfriend and I are having a rough time because of my jealousy. We have only been together for a few weeks, but I can't seem to control my emotions. I am scared that she will leave me if I don't change. How can I improve my situation? 

-Green With Envy

Dear Green With Envy,

When jealousy rears its ugly head, relationships can get turned upside down. Jealousy is usually a product of two things: The first is how the person feels about himself or herself. The second is how secure their partner makes them feel about the relationship. 

First, you should look at yourself. You need to feel good about yourself, and remind yourself of all the good qualities you have to offer whenever you feel jealous. People often become jealous out of the fear that their partner will find someone "better." Be confident in the fact that your girlfriend has no reason to leave you, and that the two of you have a strong relationship. 

The other aspect that must be examined is how your partner makes you feel about the relationship. If she makes you feel insecure and their actions point to potential infidelity, it is no wonder that you will feel jealousy. If she is constantly flirting, or acting in some manner that is detrimental to your relationship, there is a problem with the behavior. If this is the case, it is important to point out how your girlfriend's actions make you feel. Make her understand that if the relationship is to move forward and grow, the tow of you need to overcome this obstacle. 

Sit her down and have a heart-to-heart with her. Tell her how you feel, and the reasons behind it. Hopefully, the two of you will be able to reach an understanding. 

I'm just looking for another reason to convince my girlfriend to have more sex with me. Can you please tell me how many calories are burned during sex? Maybe she will replace the gym with sex, if I'm lucky...

-Alexander

Dear Alexander,

That is a very interesting question you raise. After doing some research, I was surprised how little research has been done in this area. One reason is that the act varies greatly each time, and from person to person, making it very hard to project results over the whole population. 

It will depend on how long you do it for, how often, how vigorously, what position, and which person does most of the work. According to Leslee Welch's A Handbook for the Carnally Curious , 100 calories are burned as an average each time we have sex. 

As for replacing gym workouts with sex, I don't think this is feasible. Running, cycling, and weights burn far more calories than sex. However, you may be able to supplement the gym workouts with a bedroom workout afterwards. Furthermore, exercise increases the sex drive, and makes you look and feel more attractive. Exercise also improves your sexual functions. So make sure she keeps going to the gym, and if you don't, you should start. This will give your woman other reasons to want you; for your toned and muscular body!