Imagine this...
A guy named Michael is on his way to a first date with a woman that he met through a mutual friend. He's gone ahead and booked a table at an expensive restaurant and bought a dozen red roses to give to the girl when she arrives. He knows red roses are her favorite flowers because he asked his friend to find out what flowers she likes.

They have a nice meal together and Michael then tells her about another great place he knows to eat and suggests going there on their second date. He then picks up the tab, of course. He drives her home and walks her to her door, but he doesn’t try to kiss her because it wouldn’t be gentlemanly on a first date. However, he does remind her how much he likes her and about that other great restaurant he was talking about over dinner and tells her he’ll call tomorrow to confirm a date.

He calls her first thing the next morning and gets her voicemail, so he leaves a message. He tries a few more times over the course of the morning and leaves another message. He also and sends a text/SMS message just in case she didn’t get the voice messages. She doesn’t call back during the day, but she finally picks up when he calls her again later that evening. She says something along the lines of, “Listen, Michael, I had a really nice time with you, but I don’t think it’s going to work out” or “I’m a bit tied up with other things over the next couple of weeks, so can I take a rain-check on that?” and then she never calls.


If any of the above scenario sounds familiar to you and seems like partly what you would do when "courting a woman," you’re probably one of the many guys that is wondering, “So, what does a guy need to do to get a woman’s interest?” right? As far as you’re concerned, you’ve done everything right: you’ve been a total gentleman and done everything by the book, so what’s the problem? Well, the problem is that “the book” you’re going by is about 100 years out of date or the advice you've been following has been given to you by someone who got lucky when he found his wife or girlfriend and now thinks he's got it all worked out. The truth is, what women perceived as romantic 20 years ago is now seen as tacky. There is NOTHING wrong with be a nice, romantic guy, but you just have to go about it in the right way. Today's women expect a completely different experience from a guy and if you make the mistakes that Michael made in this scenario, your romance will make the girl feel sick rather than sweet. So, let's have a look at exactly where “Michael” went wrong and why.


Giving her roses may have seemed like a romantic gesture, but on a first date it’s a gesture that’s going to leave her cold. Flowers or any such “gifts” may have been nice back in days when women didn't earn an income (and had to rely on a man to support them) because it was a sign that the man could buy her pretty things, but now women don't need that. In today's world, a gift upfront seems desperate, weird and tacky. Most women see it as the guy going way overboard in an attempt to impress, rather than just allowing his natural personality (what women are interested in when it comes to a man) to impress her. A woman doesn’t want a guy who appears to lack so much confidence in himself that he needs to hide behind “gestures” to make an impression, she just wants a guy who impresses her by being himself. Additionally, a woman wants to earn the privilege of getting a gift from you, not be given one immediately for doing nothing other than going on a date.


Buying flowers sends out the message that he was potentially trying to buy her attention or show her that he could buy her pretty things, so taking her to an upmarket restaurant on a first date just adds to her suspicion that he doesn't feel valuable enough for her and thinks he needs to buy his way into her heart. Of course, it might be Michael's style to eat in an expensive environment, but it’s not the ideal first date environment unless he and the woman happen to be “high society” type of people who always frequent such places. For the sake of this example, let's say that Michael normally didn't go to expensive restaurants. The woman wants to get to know the real him, but because of his insecurity and lack of belief in his attractiveness to women, she now has to adapt to a “high society” environment and watch Michael pretend to be something he's not.

Now, I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with eating at nice restaurants with a girl, but I am saying that you shouldn't try to buy a woman's interest in you. If you want to do that, go hire a prostitute. If you want a woman to love you for YOU, then BE you. If the current version of you isn't attractive to women (i.e. you lack confidence around women you find attractive, you don't know how to properly flirt with women, you lack charisma, you're not an alpha male, etc), then learn how to be. That is why we have our programs for success with women and why our site has is becoming increasingly popular every day. Guys can arrive here, learn what they need to learn about being confident, talking to women, attracting women, escalating to kissing and sex and securing a loving, passionate relationship with a woman of their choosing. Why wouldn't you want to learn?!


Michael was already trying to convince her to have another date, even before the first date was over. No matter how well you think the date is going, making plans for a second date while you’re on a first date is not a good move. If you make it obvious that you’re totally hooked already, you take away the thrill of the chase that a woman YEARNS to experience with a guy. She wants to chase you. To a woman, if there is no chase involved in the courtship, you’re not worth catching because you are likely desperate to have ANY woman. A quality woman wants a man who has the confidence and belief in himself to reject women he doesn't want, so he can be available for women he does want.


Michael behaved like a gentleman from an old black and white movie...and thought he was doing the “right thing.” However, in the real world (not the fanciful, politically correct world of black and white movies), if a man is attracted to a woman and wants to kiss her, he kisses her. The fact is, if she’s attracted to you, she wants you to kiss her. If you walk her to her door and then you don’t kiss her, she doesn’t think, “Wow! What a gentleman I'm so lucky!” she thinks, “Okay, he doesn’t find me attractive” or, "He isn't confident and didn't want to risk kissing me in case I didn't like him." In old romance novels, a gentleman may have asked a lady for permission to kiss her, but in today's world, asking a woman if you can kiss her will completely kill the moment and turn her off. She’s not looking for a fictional character from a black and white movie, she’s looking for a real man who knows how to make her feel like a real woman. The way a woman sees it is simple: If you don’t have the confidence to just kiss her, then you are not that man.

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In addition to signaling his eager desire for another date, Michael then called her the next day, left a couple of voice messages and sent a text message, “Just to be sure she knew I was calling!” This not only took away the thrill of the chase, it made him appear totally desperate. You might think that continuing to call and leave messages will let a woman know how interested you are and that doing so is “the right thing to do,” but in her book you’re coming across as a guy who is needy, desperate and eager to lock down any woman into a relationship.

Here's the thing...

Women like to complain about guys who don't call them, but in reality they instinctively crave the thrill of the chase and ENJOY it when they have to work to keep a guy interested. If a guy is worth having, she knows she’s going to have to work at getting his attention. If you’re handing her your attention on a plate, she assumes that you don't have any other options with women and therefore, she is probably doing you a favor by going out with you.

At this point, a lot guys who don't understand women and attraction will say, “Why do women want to play such silly games? Why can't I just like a girl, she likes me and we then have a relationship?” The answer is simple: It DOES work that way when you do it right. When you follow our advice and choose a girl you like, she will like you too and then you can get on with all the kissing, sex and loving. However, if you do it wrong, she will play hard to get, reject you or simply lose interest in the type of outdated courtship that you are offering her. If you want to be successful with modern women, you need to be confident, masculine, know how to make a woman feel like a woman, know how to flirt, know how to escalate to kissing and sex and most importantly - not try to use a dating approach that worked 20, 50 or 100 years ago. If you're trying to date women based on ideas you've seen in old movies or the “be nice to girls” advice you got from your well-meaning parents or relatives, you're going to continue experiencing rejection until you adapt to the modern dating environment and understand the subtleties of "modern romance."

Yes, The Modern Man approach to women IS romantic. The comments that you will get from women when you use our advice is that you are charming, sexy and “hot” (women use that word a lot when referring to guys who make them feel attraction. You will soon be that guy) and they will brag to their friends about the amazing, ROMANTIC moments you have shared together. However, your behavior doesn't have to be anything like those black and white movies where the man walks the woman to her door and then asks if he can kiss her, buys her lots of flowers or gifts or asks her father if it's okay that they start dating. Instead of you doing all the chasing and courting, the woman will be constantly calling, texting and “Facebooking” you because SHE will be addicted to the feelings she is experiencing as you take her through type of sexual courtship that we teach in Dating Power.

If you want to learn how to use “modern romance” and give modern women what they really want, decide to watch Dating Power right now and get control over this area of your life once and for all.