You're on cloud nine. She was the perfect soul mate, and the relationship was rocking, but at the ninety-day mark, you peeled out of her life at 90 mph. Are you at risk of suffering from the Three Month Man(TMM) syndrome?

All across America, more and more men are destroying perfectly good relationships with the women of their dreams for no apparent reason. The men regret making such foolish mistakes, only once the relationship is destroyed. The problem usually does not arise from the woman's romantic blunders, but rather, because the ninety-day nice guy warranty has expired.
Self Destruction
What causes a man to bail out of a perfectly good relationship? There are many factors that can explain this syndrome, but whatever the case may be, it is important for a man to realize the cause of his bad decisions in order to prevent him from consistently falling victim of the same problem.

One of the reasons why a TMM's relationship lasts for such a short period of time, is because in general, the man does not see the fault within himself. Instead, he believes that all the women he has dated are all losers because the man fails to see any problems with himself, the situation continues to repeat itself.

The main causes for men's short term commitments are generally attributed to their experiences with other women. Some men are into the thrill of the kill (date as many beautiful women as they can); others have killer standards, while others are just plain jerks. What follows is a list of the different character types that can be found in the TMM. Can you be a Three Month Man?
The Infatuation Addict
The infatuation addict -a man who falls in and out of love too quickly- is typically spontaneous, self-assured, and irrational. He lives to throw around declarations of his destiny with his current partner, whipping her into a frenzy of feelings. But soon, he gets bored, restless, and breaks up with her for the smallest reason.

In general, a man that falls into this category does so because of insecurity. He needs to bolster his self-esteem by going on to the next conquest.
Man On A Marriage Mission
While he might come across as the serious and stable type, he carries around an imaginary checklist, where he checks off the qualities and attributes he requires in a woman. Unless she lives up to this consumer's standards, he will not hesitate to return her to the place of purchase within three months time.

In general, this type of man has a clear idea of what he wants and sees no point in experimenting. He may bring her home to meet his parents within the first few weeks of dating, but only to get his parents' approval for marriage purposes in the long run. Before he invests time and emotions in her, he just wants to make sure that she's on the same wavelength as he is, as far as long-term goals are concerned.


The Walking Wounded
The walking wounded is a man that has been burned badly. When you look at him, you see the torture that he's been faced with. This shines through his posture, his body language and the way he still seems hurt by some mysterious woman from his past. He is a lot more difficult when it comes to choosing women because he is afraid of getting burned again. To protect himself, he never fully commits himself to any relationship. It resembles the "you can't fire me, because I never took the job" attitude.

In general, this type of man talks about how he'd like to go on vacation with her; go skiing on the weekend or go for a romantic dinner, but he never follows through. In his mind, there's just too much risk involved with committing to someone he cares about.
Self-Check
After reading these three types of TMM categories, you should have a pretty good idea about whether you suffer from the TMM syndrome. In case you're still not sure, here's a little test that should help you determine whether you are already contagious or not.

1. Do you find yourself most alive when you first meet a new woman?

2. Do you get bored with a relationship, just when it's about to get serious?

3. Did most of your relationships end in less than three months?

4. Did you think that most of your girlfriends were The One?

5. Do your friends roll their eyes when you tell them that this time you've met the woman of your dreams?

6. Could you have an entire cheerleading squad made up of only the women you've dated in the past two years?

7. Did your last four girlfriends accuse you of being afraid to commit?

8. Do women seem less perfect the longer you date them?

9. Do you break up with a woman the moment you suspect that she might be having second thoughts about you?

10. Do you think there's always a chance of finding a better woman than the one you are currently with?

If you've answered yes to at least half of these questions, then there is a pretty good chance that you are a Three Month Man. If you want to solve your problem, you need to acknowledge the problem with yourself, and if necessary, see a therapist. If you really want a long-term relationship, you have to discover what's behind your short-term failures. Those that don't learn from their past mistakes, are destined to repeat them in the future.