What Should A Guy Do When He Asks A Woman For Her Phone Number And She Says, "Why Don't You Give Me Yours Instead?" Should He Give It To Her?

Let me give you a couple of different perspectives on your situation.

I have one good friend who has been with literally hundreds of women.

He told me a story about a woman who said this to him. He asked her for her number and she said, "Well, why don't you write down your number and I'll call you..."

He didn't even hesitate and shot back, "Don't give me that sh*t, write your number down!"

She smiled and wrote her number down.

One time, I was out talking to a girl... I asked her to write down her e-mail and number, and she said, "You give me your number."

I looked at her and said, "Never mind."

Then, as the conversation went on, she started making comments about talking to me in the future, giving her my number, etc.

I just said, "Nah, you're not serious. If you were, you wouldn't be playing games with me, and you'd just give me your number."

She wrote it down.

Funny enough, my standard response to "Why don't you give me your number instead and I'll call you?" is to just look at her and say, "Write it down, it will be okay..." and then pointing to the paper.

That probably works about 50% of the time.

Just because a woman says "Give me your number instead" doesn't mean that you've lost control. It's usually just a test.

Some great icebreakers and just the right amount of Cocky & Funny will go a long way...
Can You Recommend Any Good Icebreakers Or Tips For Guys On Starting Conversations With Women?

It's a fact that most guys are afraid of approaching women and starting conversations.

When you say the word "icebreaker," you assume that a woman is going to respond to you "coldly." You know, ice = cold.

The fact is that there is a certain percentage of women out there who are happy, open and receptive in general, and a certain amount that are cold, closed and not receptive.

A guy who came to my last seminar in Los Angeles went out one of the evenings and started approaching women. He came back to the seminar the next day and told his story...

He said that he couldn't believe how much he had let his past negative programming stop him from starting conversations with women. He had gone out and walked up to women, one after the other, and simply said, "Hi, I'm out meeting people tonight, what's your name?" and women were giving him all kinds of positive responses.

Just remember that most women will respond somewhere in the range of "neutral" to "positive" if you say almost anything to them.

Now, if you want to start conversations in bars and nightclubs, and you just can't get the nerve up to do it, try this...

Find a busy place near the bar where people are lining up to order drinks. Find a place where people are literally crammed together like sardines. Work your way up to the bar at the busiest spot, and either stand or get a chair there.

The idea is that you want to be where a lot of women will walk up to the bar during the evening and accidentally bump into you.

If you really want to make this work for you, wear a loud or unique shirt... something that has a soft, "feely" texture.

Over the course of a few hours, some conversations will start by themselves. Women will say "excuse me" and try to get past you. Some women will ask you to order a drink for them. Some will just bump up against you by accident, and then apologize.

Take a few minutes to think up some good responses that fit your personality... and have them ready.

Try:

"Look, if you wanted to start a conversation with me, you could have just said hi, you didn't have to be violent about it."

That should get you started.

The point is that there's a way to put yourself in a situation that automatically sparks conversations. You just need to be ready when it happens.

This kind of thing should help you get past the fear and hesitation to start conversations on your own.
Should A Guy Keep Up The Cocky And Funny Routine After He Has Been Dating A Woman For A Fair Amount Of Time?

You need to keep doing what works in your life. Too many men make the mistake of stopping the things that are working.

There is another less common mistake that some men make, which is to increase the amount of Cocky & Funny to the point where it becomes predictable, boring and annoying.

Once you become comfortable using the material, you will have a "feel" for it. Do what works, and stop doing what doesn't.

Every situation is slightly different, and you're at the point where no "formula" will fit your situation exactly.