When it comes to getting dates, can a guy approach women who are more attractive than he is and is "one out of 10" a good ratio of success?

This is a very interesting combination of questions...

First of all, what would be so bad about only having one out of 10 women go out with you?

Just think of it...

You could make 10 women feel good by approaching them and boosting their self-esteem, and one of them would wind up going out with you.

You'd probably spend about 60 minutes of time and about 147 calories of energy (try a power bar or something if you begin to feel tired).

Investment: One hour plus 147 calories

Return: A date with an unusually attractive woman

I'd play that game with you all day long. I think you see where I'm going with this.

The problem most guys have is that they imagine the nine times that they don't wind up with a date as being "cold, hard shutdown" rejections.

And unless you have no class or tact at all, this just isn't going to happen.

At a recent seminar I gave, my friend Orion shared his perspective when it comes to meeting women (I've personally seen this guy get 25 phone numbers in three days... with my own two eyes).

His objective is "to make women smile." He likes to see if he can make a woman smile when he starts talking to her. Then, if she's the kind of woman that he'd like to date, he gets her information.

Think of it! He wants to find out if she's the kind of woman he likes by seeing if he can make her smile before he decides if she's the kind of woman he'd like to date.

Interesting new way of looking at things.

To answer your first question, of course you can date women who are more physically attractive than you!

Look around; you'll see all kinds of stunning women with average guys. It's actually the rule, rather than the exception.

Try making women smile when you meet them, and find out if they're beautiful on the inside as well as the outside before you choose to see them again.

Is it possible to overdo Cocky & Funny, do women like sweet guys, and do these techniques work around the world?


Is it possible for a guy to go "too far" with the Cocky & Funny technique?

One of the things you need to watch for when you're learning to be cocky and funny is going too far.

I've seen guys get a little too cocky, while forgetting that funny is a key component of the formula, and they wind up turning a woman off. I've done it myself a few times.

Just remember: If you wind up coming across as arrogant and hurting a woman's feelings, you need to change the frame of what's going on.

Try saying:

"Lighten up; what, you don't have a sense of humor?"

This tells the woman you're talking to that it was a joke without you turning into a wussy in her eyes.

Then add more humor.

Women are very adaptable, and if you take things too far, just remember to diffuse the situation quickly and learn from it. Once she sees that you were just busting on her, she'll most likely bounce right back.

Unfortunately, too many guys will turn into insta-wuss and start apologizing. Don't do that.

Some say that women like guys who are "sweet" and do nice things for them... but this seems to go against what you say. Which is correct?

I say don't be "too sweet, too soon."

If you're overly attentive early on with a woman, she'll see you as needy, which isn't attractive.

It's okay to be a little bit sweet, sure.

For instance, let's say you've been seeing her for a few weeks. Get her a flower, and tell her you were thinking of her.

What not to do: Buy her a dozen roses and bring them with you to the first meeting.

Get it?

Do your methods work in all cultures and all around the world... or are they mostly geared toward American women?

I get literally hundreds of e-mails a week from all over the world telling success stories, so my guess is that "yes, they do"...

And as a matter of fact, I'd like to thank all my readers from every corner of the planet for staying tuned, and for sending in their questions and stories.

Often, the person sending the story doesn't speak or write English very well, and I don't speak their language, so I don't include them in these mailbags, but I try to respond personally when I can.

My answer to you is: Try it. I think these principles are universal when it comes to women.

Just apply your local customs, traditions and benchmarks of proper behavior, as cultures differ, and I know that our culture in America is different than many of the cultures around the world.