My boyfriend and I have a great relationship, and the sex is very good. My problem is the fact that he never spends the night with me. He always leaves, and I don't understand why he never stays over. When we have sex at his house, he never asks me to stay even though he lives by himself. Is there something I'm missing?
Tired of Going Home

Dear Tired,

More likely than not, he simply is not comfortable sleeping with someone else, or prefers his own bed. It may be that he perceives this as a step towards living together -- a step he is not yet willing to take.

Many men think that if you stay over one night, you will start staying over every night, and before you know it, you'll have moved in. You really need to talk to him and find out what his reasoning is.

If it is a fear that you're invading his space, explain to him what your intentions are. Don't be afraid to set boundaries and stick to them. The best step to take is approaching the subject openly and honestly.

You may be worried that he has a secret that he is hiding from you, or that he has another lover. While this may be a valid concern, you would have noticed additional signs pointing to these possibilities.

What you should be more worried about is the fact that he is holding back from letting the relationship progress to the next stage. If he is taking his time, that's one thing, but if he is completely holding back, there's a problem. As I said, talk to him and find out what's going on in his head.