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Tuesday, May 28, 2013
The Nice-Guy Problem, Women Love Attention
What Advice Do You Have For "Nice Guys" Who Are Fed Up With Women Walking All Over Them?
We've all been there. You're talking to your hot female coworker, and she starts talking about her abusive jerk boyfriend who is constantly treating her poorly. You sit and listen for an hour, hoping that she'll realize what a great guy you are and consider dating you instead of him.
At the end of the conversation, she stands up, says, "Thanks for being such a great friend," and kisses you on the cheek.
A week later, she's crying because her jerk boyfriend is at it again. It's not too hard to get mad at women for this type of behavior.
I've been there myself. I've had girlfriends who basically broke up with me or never got together with me in the first place, and instead chose to be with guys who didn't treat them well.
But the key here is to focus on yourself.
Stop blaming women. Instead, start learning how to make them feel that powerful attraction for you.
Sure, it takes a little effort. But I cannot imagine a greater investment in yourself and your personal life.
Why Is It That Some Women Act Totally Enamored With You And Act Like They Want To Go Out, But Then Never Return Phone Calls Or Even Initiate Calls Themselves?
Unfortunately, many attractive women have very low self-esteem.
Many (if not most) of the attractive women that you see out on the town are really out to get attention.
What women are after and how to keep them interested.In other words, they're not looking to meet a good guy. They're not looking to find someone who will treat them well. They're not looking for "love."
They're looking to fill an empty part of their self-image. Attention makes many women feel good. Some women actually enjoy getting attention from guys, and then act like they don't like it. Hey, I never said women made sense.
Have you ever known a woman who wears low-cut blouses, and then complains that guys only look at her breasts while talking to her?
If a woman complains about something like this to me, I'll say something like, "You know, now that you mention it... are those real?"
It makes no sense, but here are a few things to remember if you want to try to make some sense of it:
A woman will behave differently according to her mood. If she's happy when she's with you, then she might act like she's enjoying herself. If you call the next day and she's depressed because she still has no self-esteem, then she's probably not going to call you back.
Attraction is the key. You must realize that if you dial up the attraction by creating sexual tension, then you'll have a much stronger chance of seeing her again.
Don't chase her. When you talk to her again, make sure you don't communicate that you need anything, especially attention or approval.
Lose the need to have every woman like you. One big weakness that most men have is a woman who won't call back. But remember: Women are the same way.
You always have options. When you know how to meet women anytime you want, then it doesn't matter what happens in a particular situation. And if it doesn't matter, women can sense it. This is a very attractive quality.
What Advice Do You Have For Guys Who Have Trouble Keeping A Woman Interested In Them?
I think you need the answer to a different question. The question you should be asking is:
"What are your views on women and wussies?"
When a guy can't seem to hold on to a woman, the problem is almost always one of the following:
He turns into a clingy, needy wuss at some point during the relationship.
He becomes predictable and boring at some point during the relationship.
So stop doing those things. Instead, learn how to keep the attraction building and growing.
It's possible, but you need to learn how.
We've all been there. You're talking to your hot female coworker, and she starts talking about her abusive jerk boyfriend who is constantly treating her poorly. You sit and listen for an hour, hoping that she'll realize what a great guy you are and consider dating you instead of him.
At the end of the conversation, she stands up, says, "Thanks for being such a great friend," and kisses you on the cheek.
A week later, she's crying because her jerk boyfriend is at it again. It's not too hard to get mad at women for this type of behavior.
I've been there myself. I've had girlfriends who basically broke up with me or never got together with me in the first place, and instead chose to be with guys who didn't treat them well.
But the key here is to focus on yourself.
Stop blaming women. Instead, start learning how to make them feel that powerful attraction for you.
Sure, it takes a little effort. But I cannot imagine a greater investment in yourself and your personal life.
Why Is It That Some Women Act Totally Enamored With You And Act Like They Want To Go Out, But Then Never Return Phone Calls Or Even Initiate Calls Themselves?
Unfortunately, many attractive women have very low self-esteem.
Many (if not most) of the attractive women that you see out on the town are really out to get attention.
What women are after and how to keep them interested.In other words, they're not looking to meet a good guy. They're not looking to find someone who will treat them well. They're not looking for "love."
They're looking to fill an empty part of their self-image. Attention makes many women feel good. Some women actually enjoy getting attention from guys, and then act like they don't like it. Hey, I never said women made sense.
Have you ever known a woman who wears low-cut blouses, and then complains that guys only look at her breasts while talking to her?
If a woman complains about something like this to me, I'll say something like, "You know, now that you mention it... are those real?"
It makes no sense, but here are a few things to remember if you want to try to make some sense of it:
A woman will behave differently according to her mood. If she's happy when she's with you, then she might act like she's enjoying herself. If you call the next day and she's depressed because she still has no self-esteem, then she's probably not going to call you back.
Attraction is the key. You must realize that if you dial up the attraction by creating sexual tension, then you'll have a much stronger chance of seeing her again.
Don't chase her. When you talk to her again, make sure you don't communicate that you need anything, especially attention or approval.
Lose the need to have every woman like you. One big weakness that most men have is a woman who won't call back. But remember: Women are the same way.
You always have options. When you know how to meet women anytime you want, then it doesn't matter what happens in a particular situation. And if it doesn't matter, women can sense it. This is a very attractive quality.
What Advice Do You Have For Guys Who Have Trouble Keeping A Woman Interested In Them?
I think you need the answer to a different question. The question you should be asking is:
"What are your views on women and wussies?"
When a guy can't seem to hold on to a woman, the problem is almost always one of the following:
He turns into a clingy, needy wuss at some point during the relationship.
He becomes predictable and boring at some point during the relationship.
So stop doing those things. Instead, learn how to keep the attraction building and growing.
It's possible, but you need to learn how.
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