By: Travis Miller

Facts About Crack
This drug is one of the most preferred among substance abusers. The US Justice Department reports approximately one to two million people use crack.

Crack is a form of cocaine. It is made by taking cocaine and mixing it with baking soda. There is about 75-90 percent cocaine in it. From there, the person preparing the drug follows a procedure that results in forming crystals with a rock-like appearance. When lit, these crystals make cracking sounds, and this is how the drug received its name.

Individuals who use this form of cocaine receive a lesser effect than taking it in its typical powdered form. However, it is highly addictive and someone can become physically as well as mentally addicted after using it just a few times.

Recognizing Crack Addict Behavior
It can be a heartbreaking and frustrating feeling to watch someone go through a drug addiction. A person caught up in this situation needs support and help from you to understand what the drug is doing to him/her physically, emotionally and mentally. Here is a list of common crack addict behavior to help you determine if this is the drug your loved one is using.

Physical and behavioral signs include:

Irritability
Anxiety
Glassy eyes
Restlessness
Confrontational attitude
Erratic behavior
Signs of paranoia
Nervousness
Insomnia, followed by sleeping for long periods
Dramatic increase or decrease in appetite and weight
Frequent sniffing
Rambling speech
Manic episodes
Licking lips due to dry mouth
Drinking a lot of water
Aggression
Depressed demeanor
Large pupils
Hallucinations
Psychosis
Other signs to watch for:

Evasive behavior when asked direct questions
Frequent short absences that may be spent getting a quick high
A distinct change in attitude/behavior upon the addict's return
Physical Effects of Crack
It's important that someone who is addicted to crack receive help quickly because the risk of overdose is very high. This is due to crack's quick absorption into the bloodstream. There are other physical effects from the drug that can lead to severe health problems in the future.

These include:

Possible damage to lungs and nasal septum
Increase in blood pressure
Increased heart rate
Inability to catch one's breath
Increased risk for strokes and heart attacks.

Withdrawal Symptoms
People who attempt to get off crack on their own face some rather daunting withdrawal symptoms, including hunger paranoia, cravings, irritability and extreme anxiety. These symptoms make an addict want to use the drug again, and this is why it's so difficult to stop. People who have been on the drug for a long time will have to undergo medical attention to ensure they remain medically stable throughout the withdrawal process.

My personal thoughts
Addicts have a disease and need treatment for it. Unfortunately, treatment fails if the patient is not a willing participant and wants to quit. Be patient; your loved one will need your help along the long road to recovery.

 believe that crack is a two part  problem composed of physical addiction and a unique lifestyle. In my opinion, the physical addiction carries more weight than the lifestyle. A misconception is that this addiction is largely a choice by the addict. Don't believe it. Users are severely and almost hopelessly addicted to this drug. Have you ever noticed how difficult it is to stop smoking? In terms of crack, we are dealing with the most addictive drug in existence. Lifestyle is also a big part of the problem. This is not only a lifestyle without responsibility but a subculture unto it's own. There are no jobs, no bills to pay, no home upkeep, no showers and no time schedule. Users do whatever they want all day and night. It is also a hedonistic lifestyle. Get high all day long and have casual sex whenever wanted. Crack users LIKE this lifestyle. That's why they are there. The drug plays the role of masking out responsibility and conscience. Until the desire of this lifestyle is broken, the addiction will continue. What you are about to read is very straightforward. It has to be. Some of what you will read cannot be overemphasized.

Most crack addicts don't have jobs. An addict's daily use of crack costs between $200 and $400. Money is also needed for small amounts of food, drug paraphernalia and miscellaneous items. Crack addicts also need places to sleep and/or smoke crack. At the beginning of each day a crack addict has no money and on many days no place to stay. These are resourceful, manipulative people who are able to create substantial amounts of cash daily. Can you do that? It's difficult to relate how skillful these people are. When you meet an addict for the first time, they size you up immediately. If you are an easy mark, you will be manipulated and become a part of their life. If they see you are interested in romance, you are in big trouble. No, your love isn't going to change them. It's going to destroy YOU. A psychologist at a drug treatment center related the mechanics of a first meeting with a drug addict. He said, "It's like the Green Bay Packers playing your high school team. You don't have a chance". Don't ever think you can buck those odds. As a normal person it is difficult to understand a person who manipulates and scams all day long. This is a necessity for addicts to survive and you will not be an exception. You will be the rule, another person used up, destroyed and dumped out without conscience.

Dealing with a crack addict is totally disarming. It will interfere with your sleep, your work, your driving, appetite and general concentration. If you are just beginning the discovery of your addict you will read what follows and probably not take it to heart. That's because you haven't had your head beat in enough as yet. If you have been dealing with an addict you will find some tips and explanations that will make sense and be helpful.

Crack is very dangerous because it is an easy transition from marijuana. It's use characteristics are similar so it seems harmless. They are both smoked from a pipe and inhaled. When compared to the shooting of heroin or the snorting of cocaine, a marijuana user does not see it as foreign. In relating to the relatively harmless effects of marijuana, a user could innocently try and become addicted to crack. The drug also has it's negative physical effects. Users can have "crack seizures" using the drug and it is not uncommon for users to have heart attacks. A police officer once told me about a woman who got out of jail and immediately went to a crack house. She had been clean for 6 months while in jail. Because she had not used in so long, she overdosed on the spot and died. Crack also produces an effect called "crack lung". Crack damages the immune system of the lungs making the lungs more susceptible to disease. Shortness of breath, cough, wheezing, and chest pains can be symptoms of lung problems from crack use. General physiological effects of crack use are depression, confusion, hallucinations, anxiety, paranoia, poor concentration, cardiac seizures, respiratory seizures, lung damage, high incidence of dependency, blood vessel constriction, increased blood pressure, increased heart rate, brain seizures that result in suffocation, rise in blood sugar levels, rise in body temperature, and sleeplessness.

Crack is cheap and much easier to obtain than any other drug. In Phoenix, you are literally never more than 5 minutes from a crack house. There may be more crack houses than convenience stores. If you are new to town there are people selling on the streets. You can pick up a street whore who will introduce you to crack houses. There are also delivery services. Some crack dealers have regular business hours during which they will deliver crack to you within minutes after a call to their mobile phone. If you have someone in your home who is trying to quit, don't leave them alone. While you are at the grocery store for 15 minutes, they will be able to buy and smoke the drug. There is very little odor so you will be unaware. Never take an addict to buy drugs. Undercover detectives stake out drug houses 24 hours a day, seven days a week. They videotape buyers and their vehicles and wait until the buyers have driven a distance from the drug house before arresting them. Police departments get their unmarked, undercover vehicles by seizing them in drug busts. Don't place yourself and your vehicle at risk.

Crack use is at epidemic levels. It is difficult for a normal person to understand the vast numbers of people using this drug. Some users maintain jobs, at least for a while. I call them functioning addicts. Here is an important point. If your addict has a job, get her boss or company involved. This is particularly effective with men. woman  find a great deal of identity with their jobs and the fear of losing a job can motivate them to change. Don't be afraid to do this. Most companies are used to getting alcoholics treated. Companies are often sympathetic with such problems as almost every family has some kind of addiction problem. I have seen success with this approach several times. Eventually the addiction overtakes them and they lose everything including their jobs and families. Crack users continually steal and cheat each other. They are constantly bickering and moving from one place to another. Many addicts don't stay in one place for more than a week. Usually  arguments over drugs will cause the move.

In my opinion women are most vulnerable to crack. It seems as though there is something in a woman's personality that causes them to be more easily addicted. The female population of prisons and jails has increased dramatically due to the large numbers of women incarcerated for crack. An important thing to remember is that it is an easy life for a woman after her morals are stripped away. Crack gouges out all personal standards and morals. Women prostitute for cash or drugs and find the lifestyle exciting. Crack will turn the most moral woman into a thief and whore without any conscience. If you observe outpatient counseling programs that are gender non-specific, you will find few women in the programs. There is simply no motivation for them to change. It's just too easy for women. According to a recent report by Dateline, nearly 80% of females incarcerated for drugs will return to jail after being released. Remember, those are just the ones who get caught.

Having a crack addict in your life isn't difficult. It's impossible. That's the first thing you have to realize and accept. There is one exception and that is if your addict is actively and willingly attending therapy or IS NOT USING CRACK. If you believe another scenario then you may be smoking it too. EVERY crack addict is quitting. I have never met one who didn't tell me so. They all know when and how they are going to quit. A common statistic is that 20% of all addicted people will be successful in recovering. This number includes alcohol and all drugs. Considering crack is MUCH harder to kick, you can see the percentage of success in kicking crack is closer to zero. I say it is almost impossible. But it is not totally impossible. When addicted individuals stop using cocaine, they often suffer from depression, anxiety and the inability to experience pleasure from normally pleasurable activities. This makes it extremely difficult for the recovering addict to stay clean because they continuously expect the same bang they get from crack use. People incarcerated for lengthy periods of time will walk out of jail and go directly to a crack house to buy. A crack addict who wants to quit is actually attending therapy or is in a halfway house. Or, a crack addict who wants to quit has removed herself from the lifestyle and is drug free. A crack addict who is promising to quit is manipulating you. If you are in doubt, take the addict for a urine test. They are inexpensive. Make sure the testing facility actually watches the addict urinate into the cup. It is very common for addicts to  substitute someone else's clean urine for their own. Frequently this is a child's.

Never let a crack addict blame you for their addiction. This is a common and tireless manipulation. They will constantly tell you that something you said or did made them smoke crack, initially start smoking crack or go get more crack. Unless you are actually putting the crack pipe in their mouth and lighting it, you are in no way at fault. Many times they will blame the person closest to them as the total cause for their addiction. As the addiction progresses through time, the addict's ability to reason becomes totally depleted. They will give explanations to you that will leave you nearly astounded. Their thinking becomes totally irrational and that is why you can never believe or rely on anything they say. Another common and very frequently used ploy is the "argument". If an addict is in your home trying to stay clean or recovering from a binge, they will skillfully create an argument with you and leave. It is just a ploy to get back to the street life. Later, they will blame you as the cause of the argument. Again, you will be the causative factor for their continuing drug use. You will discover addicts never take personal responsibility for their drug use. It's always someone or some situation that causes them to use the drug.

Crack addicts are in involved in three, and only three, activities all day and all night long. They get money for crack, they buy crack and they smoke crack. If an addict is talking to you or seeing you in person then you are going to be involved in one of those three activities. No, crack addicts do not call home and say I love you. Crack addicts call home because you are an easy mark. If you are not planning to be involved in one of those three daily activities, get away from the addict.

Crack makes women horny and  daring and horny( I was how shall we say RAPED!! by Dana alot). Anybody will do most anything in pairs or in groups. Just about anything you ask a woman to do, she will comply. This is 100% true if you are the person with the crack or with money. When a woman needs a hit, her body is yours. Unfortunately for men, crack often prevents them from getting an erection even though they are highly sexually aroused. Women will also experiment with each other and it is not uncommon for women to have same gender lovers. It is not uncommon for a man to pay two women to have sex with him at the same time or with each other while he watches. It is not uncommon for sexually straight male addicts to engage in homosexual acts with gay men to get money for crack. There is usually a street area in every large city where numerous men can be seen walking the street to procure gay customers.

Crack addicts don't like to be in public places or crowds. The power of the drug is demonstrated by the fact that women crack addicts do not like to shop. A crack addict does his Christmas shopping either in a convenience store in less than three minutes with less than a dollars worth of change or in dumpsters in alleys. Addicts frequently sift through dumpsters for clothes and anything else they find useful. Crack addicts shop for clothes in thrift stores. They will buy a cheap blouse or sweater and wear three more expensive ones out underneath. Crack addicts rarely go to restaurants. They frequent drive through at fast food restaurants. Crack addicts can live comfortably in total filth. Even though crack whores have sex numerous times per day they fail to use protection. Crack makes a weak person feel powerful and invincible.

A crack addict will drain your life emotionally and financially. Just watching them is tiring as they are on a speed trip accompanied by loads of paranoia. They are constantly checking doors, windows and switching lights on and off. They can not enjoy a movie or an FM station for more than a few minutes without changing to something else. They are constantly moving about. They develop motor function problems and often bend one knee slightly and tilt their upper torso to the same side as the bent knee. They also can move their arms and legs in twitchy, jerky motions and have sores on their faces and legs from rubbing them. Users often experience "crack seizures" where their heads will twitch. They are not aware of these. Seriously addicted users lose a lot of weight because crack diminishes their appetites. They will tirelessly challenge your ability to say "NO". When you think they are out of your life they will call again. They NEVER give up. They shamelessly keep calling anyone they know with money or a place to stay. The word "NO" does not phase them. If crack was legal and I owned a telemarketing company, I would hire crack addicts as telemarketers.

They will continuously make up the best excuses to extract money from you. Excuses can range from needing money for antibiotics to needing money for rent. When you offer to go to the drugstore to pay for the antibiotics they will give a phony reason why you can't. If you don't give them money they will steal from you, any relative, friend or even child. If you give them money they will still steal from you. They will use stolen credit cards, forge checks, shoplift or break into homes. They take stolen merchandise back to stores and attempt to get cash refunds. NOTHING is safe in your home. If it's an heirloom wedding ring........it's gone. They will prey on grandmothers receiving social security benefits and will rob them of the pennies that were saved through the years. They will rob parents of all the retirement resources saved in a lifetime of work. I know a couple who was once financially sound and now is nearly broke and can't afford burial plots for themselves. They become great manipulators and will heartlessly suck any unprepared person of all their emotional and financial resources.

Crack addicts go through a cycle. They binge 24 hours a day for five to seven days and then crash. The crash consists of almost uninterrupted sleep resembling a coma. During this time they get up and consume large amounts of food to replenish their energy. While they are eating they are still in a near comatose state. When they crash they are extremely tired and depressed. At crash time an addict will call or come to your door and tell you most convincingly they are done with drugs. They will say they are tired of the whole thing and will never go back to it. You will believe this story and allow them to crash and replenish themselves. At the end of the sleep cycle they will get up, start an argument and walk right back out your door to do it again. If a crack addict is really ready to quit she will submit to a detox center followed up by therapy. If you allow an addict to crash at your house all you will be doing is providing a restaurant and flophouse in to further their addiction.

Remember those sci-fi horror movies where outer space beings come to earth, get inside of humans bodies and possess them? That is what you are dealing with. On crack, your loved one or friend has become a possessed being. Forget about talking to the person you used to know. They are no longer there. You must realize that. You are now dealing with a force that is more powerful than you and them. This is where successful families have difficulty. Successful people are used to being able to resolve most problems. At the outset they think they can solve this one as well. At first a family will try to work it out between themselves. When considering experienced counselors have such low success rates, you must realize this is an impossible avenue as families simply do not have the experience or counseling tools to deal with this problem. They will spend thousands of dollars on expensive treatment clinics and other help avenues without any success. They cling to the thought that there is always hope. And yes, there is one and only one hope. There is hope that the addict will hit bottom so hard that he will seek treatment or quit on his own. The only way that will happen is when families and friends remove the addict from their lives. Involvement with an addict only extends the time for them to hit bottom. Letting go is the most difficult part in dealing with a loved one. Removing a loved one from your life is painful but it is the only hope to having them in your life again. You simply have to do this. You may need to seek professional counseling for yourself and family to heal the wounds and pain and help you through the removal process. There is a good pocketbook titled "How to Survive the Loss of a Love" that is available in any bookstore for $6.95.

After you have been broken emotionally and drained financially an addict will talk about his real friends, and that's not you. A woman addict will tell you about a real friend who doesn't like her to whore so he gives her money while, in his mind, he is receiving gratuitous sex. That friend is only momentary because the cash drain will quickly blow him out. Female addicts have lots of these kinds of friends. Real friends are other users or people who will support and aid in their habit without any questions. These real friends are in and out of their lives frequently because there is usually a money argument, theft or a dope disagreement. Don't be insulted when an addict mentions their real friends. Be plenty irritated and don't open your pocketbook again. When the addict asks for money, tell them to call their real friends.

Don't become fascinated or curious about an addicts bizarre behavior. This was a trap for me and it can keep you emotionally involved. I became wrapped up in curiosity about  Dana daily life but she finally cured me through sheer disgust. She called me from her girlfriend Cathy's apartment and wanted me to bring her clothes which I had stored for her. When I got to the apartment she and Cathy were smoking crack on the couch, laughing and having a simply wonderful time. Dana was bragging to Cathy about how she had procured a whore for a friend and went back to his house. The whore didn't perform to her standards and she described how good it felt punching her in the face. She also bragged about holding a gun to her head and threatening her. They were also calling crack dealers for more crack and bragging about stealing a car the night before. Shortly after I arrived there was a knock at the door and a middle-aged gentlemen was invited in and taken into a bedroom by Cathy. I started bringing boxes of clothing into the apartment and on the second trip Cathy came out and asked my Dana to come into the bedroom. Dana said, "Excuse me, she needs me for my specialty". I asked what her specialty was and she replied, "Getting fucked in the ass". On the last trip of bringing in boxes another gentleman had arrived for services and while I was leaving, their crack dealer arrived. The girls were laughing and having a great time. Guess what, I don't think I need another look.

Crack whores have an interesting perspective on their customers. They call them tricks and say it with disgust like they are "getting over" on their customers. They think their customers are suckers and fools. Many men like to have anal sex with crack whores because they know they will do anything. So for $15-$60 a man can get a crack whore to do anything. Each time a woman participates a little more of her soul is eaten away until none remains. Now consider, who is the sucker here?

Crack addicts are fearful of the police and incarceration. When they are incarcerated, there is no more crack. I figured out a way to prevent Dana from coming to my door and it worked. I called my addict's best friend and told her two detectives were at my home looking for Dana. I told her they searched the house and even had a third detective at my door in case she tried to escape. I also told her friend not to tell her. Guess what, she quit coming to my house. Don't forget, addicts are highly paranoid.

Here are some tips that are purely my opinion but I think are valid. Never front money to an addict for drugs. Never give an addict cash. If you buy them clothes they will return them for the cash. If you buy their children clothes they will return them for cash. Never take an addict to buy drugs as you risk being arrested for possession if the drugs are in your vehicle. Don't be curious about what they are doing. Assume they are doing the worst imaginable because they are. Remember every act of kindness only extends the time to where they hit bottom. Acts of kindness only hurt them. Helping a physically sick crack addict is a mistake. Let them suffer and hit bottom. Change the locks on your home and don't give them a key. Do not leave them alone in your home and remove all cash. Do not allow them in your home with their friends as their friends will return and burglarize you. The only friends they have are other addicts. Never believe anything they say, only respond through their actions. Telling you they are going to drug treatment is meaningless. Receiving a call from them at a treatment program is hope. Remember you are a non-person to them. You are only a vehicle and easy mark to further their addiction. Avoid expensive treatment programs. There are halfway houses that will accept addicts without money. They put them to work immediately and make them self-sufficient. If they are on probation, stay in touch with their probation officer. Most of them really care. If they need to be arrested call the police. Jail is safer for them than the street. Never let them crash at your house. Learn to be strong with them and don't ever waiver even slightly on the word "NO". Learn to let them go from your life. It is the most difficult thing to do but it will protect you and help them.


                                                     "Things Crack Heads Say"

“I’m really hungry and I only have an eighth a tank of gas.  I need to borrow $20 bucks so I can look for a job tomorrow.”

"I thought you loved me..."

 "You are not helping right now"

 "Why do we have fight all the time?"

"Can I have $200 to put my stuff in storage before I turn myself in for jail ?"

''NOW THAT YOU BUSTED ME, LET ME TAKE THE LAST HIT AND I'LL GO TOO SLEEP !''


"I think I should just kill myself"

"If you dont give me the money they are gonna kill me/beat me up"


"If you dont give me the money he gonna come in here and just take whatever he wants and he is a real big man"


"I need $$$ !! You dont understand. This is a life or death situation"


"I am really trying to quit"


"I dont go looking for it.  People be giving it to me for free"


"I cant go to rehab, I called and they dont have any beds available"

"Ive been doing this for 15 years so I'm used to it.  It doesnt even have an effect on me anymore"


"I can handle it...Its not like I have to do it everday"


"You are not strong enough to handle my addiction"


"I lied because I love you"

“I just got high and wanted to shave off all my pubic hair – but it doesn’t mean anything.”

 “I know eventually I’m going to end up killing someone to get the money if you don’t help me.”

" I didn't want to tell you the truth because I know you wouldn't like it"

"I don't do it that often. "

"I am not hurting you. I am only hurting myself."


"You can drug test me anytime you want."


"Nothing happened with this crack whore,I just gave her a line,we got high together,that's all... I told you that I hung around these people before"


"I know I'm an asshole and in the wrong,but I've done it for the last time"


"Don't forget,I'm the one that told you about it so don't be getting mad at me"


"You're flying off the handle and blowing things out of proportion"

"I'm not a scumbag like the rest of them"

"I'm sorry about lying to you all the time,I feel like shit"


"I look great at 98 lbs!"

"What do you mean to skinny! I look great."

"I know that I lost a lot of weight. I have no money for food, so can I get $20.00 for some groceries."

"You have everything, the house, the car, the kids. All I want is the tax refund money to get back on my feet."

"They fired me for only being 3 minutes late."

"I can float a check till friday."

"That ring (bracelet, necklace, jewlery box) was mine when she dies anyway."

"I should of wrote that check for $100.00 not just $50.00."

"It was a gift from my parents to you anyway!"


" i can't sleep mom. i'm just so stressed out"

"I love you mommy"

"There is something wrong with my cell phone."

"I left my cell phone in car while I was at the mall."

"I was sleeping [for two days] and didn't hear my cell phone ringing.  I think it's stuck on vibrate."

"I was at the bank [post office/any other errand for work] and my cell phone doesn't get a signal there."

"I have no food in the house, so I was at the grocery store and I left my cell phone in the car."

"I have really bad allergies."

"I'm having problems sleeping at night."

"You'd look like hell too if you hadn't had a good night's sleep in over six months."

"It's a more sophisticated culture that you wouldn't understand.  People regularly have business dinners at strip clubs."

"My paycheck hadn't cleared so I took a $400 ATM withdrawal from my work account so I could buy groceries."

"It's not embezzling.  It's a loan."

"They owe me a bonus anyway, so I bought a plasma tv with the money."

"I'll pay it back."

"If I don't consider it stealing, then it isn't wrong."

"I know you've hired someone to spy on me."

"I never cheated on you."

"I didn't have sex with her.  She's trailer trash.  We're just friends."

"I don't know who's telling you this stuff, but she's married and we're just friends."

"She wasn't a hooker."

"She's not a prostitute."

"I've never had anyone spend the night."

"You took my family away from me and I'm lonely by myself.  What do you expect me to do all night?"

"I want to go into rehab, but I would lose my job."

"I stopped going to rehab because it was so expensive and it wasn't working."

"I tell everyone exactly what they want to hear and I lie to everyone so they get off my back."


“Tomorrow”

"I LOVE YOU AND I NEVER THOUGHT THAT YOU WOULD CALL ME A CRACKHEAD.  I'M NOT A CRACKHEAD, I HAVE MONEY IN MY POCKET!"


 “I want to call you so bad but I know that you will just argue and I don’t want to argue with you”

“You dirty pig” (after saying no to giving him $80 for crack)

“I love you and miss you so much but I have to deal with this.”

“Of course I think about you constantly”

“Just give me the $40 and I will have that cheque coming in on Friday. I’ll give you half of it!”

“I’ll call you back in 10 min.” (calls back 24 hours later)

“I left my cell phone in the car.”

“I can’t do this to you anymore. But this is my lifestyle. It’s all I know.”

“I need $100 for my son to get circumcised.”

“You know where I am and what I am doing. No girls!”

“Tomorrow I am coming home. Come pick me up” (said that 10 days ago)

“Wednesday I will be back home.”

“This is the last time. I swear. I am done with this stuff.”

“I can’t wait to start that job tomorrow.”

“Just one. I am only going to do one.”

"It's a disease.  If I had cancer, would you divorce me?"

“I don’t want to talk about it right now.” (The “right” time never does come)

 “I’ll do____(insert chore)_____ tomorrow” (Tomorrow never comes)

"One hit is to many... 1000 is never enough."

"Everyone in my group knows how nuts YOU are, I've told them the crazy way you act"

"You have everything you need and can pay your bills so why shoud'nt I spend all of my money on drugs."

"Yes, I'm going to work!  Don't worry, I won't lose this job, this time!"


"I wish you would go to Al-Anon so I wouldn't have to deal with the way you act every time I get high. If you went to Al-anon you would learn you can't control me and would keep your mouth shut and I wouldn't have to hear anything from you."
"I owe this guy some money, so as soon as I pay him I will be right back home."

"What if I never touch it again, would you see me?"

“I decided to get up and go into work early.”

“Hey honey, I’m almost home but I’m going to stop and get our son a milkshake first.”

“I just had a stomach ache.”  Or “I was jerking off.” (when he literally stayed in the bathroom for 6 hours straight)

“That loser must have left that pipe in the bathroom when he stopped by the other day.”

“I really don’t enjoy it when I do it, all I think about is you and our son, and all I do is cry.”

“I will never do it again, I swear, if I do I HAVE to go to rehab.”

“ I don’t know how the tire got flattened.”

“I don’t know WHO that is calling me.”

“I’ll pay the mortgage and all of the bills but I’m moving back in.”

“One time I stole $10,000 from my parents safe.”

“One time I stole my roommate’s money and drugs and called a limo to pick me up from his house.”

“I’m innocent.”

“I started smoking while you were pregnant.”

"Someone stole both of our cars. Hey, do you think your dad will set me up in business again so we can afford to buy a car?"


"I swear I dropped a piece on the carpet."
"I'm not going to die."  (And then he does.)


"How could you throw away our beautiful love?"

"I know I stole your ATM card, but I am not a criminal."

“I’m trying to quit but it is hardest thing I’ve ever tried to do…”


"My life is in such a disarray, I was trying to fix it."

"I am sorry for all the pain I have caused you but you know you were the one that -----

"I am going to get high one more time, then i am going to rehab."

"I haven't used in weeks."

"I am not going back, I am getting too old  for this."

" I needed one more run."

"She's a crack whore,I was just paying her a compliment."

"I'm at Wal-Mart"

"I am going to get high one more time, then i am going to rehab".

"THIS A HOBBY NOT A HABIT " I SMOKE CRACK CAUSE I WANNA ENJOY EATING YOUR P***Y!

"I decided to take the midnight shift and didn't want to call you to tell you because I knew you were sleeping."

"I am not getting any of my tips from work because the drawer keeps coming up short" (everyday)

I'm going to get a coffee with my "buddy".

“When I’m really depressed I get mean.  I keep myself away from the people I love when I’m like this so I won’t say anything to hurt them.”

"I'm watching the Christian channel right now."

"I only get high when/after I've been drinking."


"I'm only gonna have a couple of drinks with the guys."
"I left my cell phone at work, that's why I didn't call you back."


"Honest, I was home all night sleeping. I just didn't hear the phone ringing!"

"I love you so much. You are my everything"
“It’s not mine. It’s someone else’s. What did you do with it?”

"I am using cocaine to wean myself off the crack!! You just do not understand!"

"That's all in the past now; I realized I could either have you or drugs, and I love you too much to lose you"

"Son-in-law told me that he didn't hit my daughter, she actually ran into his fist!!"

"I love you and need you, you are the best woman I could ever have asked for,but I have to be with (CW) she understands me!"

"I wasn't high; you guys make me nervous as hell so I act like that."

“I'm just testing it for someone”

"I dropped my phone in the toilet, so I couldn't call you back."

"Whatever happened to our marriage vow “For Better Or Worse” – this is the worse and you want a divorce!!!"

"When you say crack it sounds so bad, that's why I call it coke".


"I just stayed there overnight, I didn't do anything with her".

"I need some money to get my mom a birthday present".

"It relaxes me".

"I'm doing my paper work". (when he was in the bathroom for about a half hour...he's a frigin electrician!)

"I'll pay you back double if you lend me $20 today".
“I don’t know where your dress is,  I think someone broke in and stole it”

“Call the police!!!!  Somebody broke in here and stole all our DVD’s”

“ Baby, I swear I didn’t pawn your car, I don’t smoke crack only weed”

"I don't say anything to you about all that weight you have gained."


"You know, I don't say anything about that Paxil you take.  It's the same thing. Your addicted to Paxil."

"I am the king"

"There is someone in the bushes again"

"I can't go to re-hab, we don't have any money" (um, yes, we do)

"I have been smoking crack for 24 years, it has not killed me yet, why would it kill me now?"

"Give me $30 or I will shoot you in the foot"

"WHY ARE YOU FREAKING?  THE GUN WASN'T LOADED!"

"I am not a CRACK ADDICT"  I use cocaine, it is the same thing. Stop calling it crack, it's cocaine."
"IT WAS ON MY MIND SO MUCH ….I COULD TASTE IT."

"I didn't have any minutes left on my cell phone, so I couldn't call you."

"I'm really tired of living like this but I need to just party one more night"

"Get this straight: I am a crack addict.  But I am not a crack head. Believe it or not, there is a difference."

"I want to stay married and grow old with you."

"I don't deserve you"
‘Hey, you are not going to believe this. My cell phone got stolen off of my motorcycle. I called my cell from a payphone and some guy told me that if I give him $20 he will give it back to me.”

"I'm on my way."

“I don’t want to be in rehab over the holidays.”

"I'm not actually an addict because I don't jones for it. It's just that if someone puts it in front of me I can't say no."

"I cashed my check at the bank and some guy came up with a gun and robbed me."

“I only use it once a month.”

"I'll be right back I promise."

“I didn't want too.  I started entertaining the thought and it grabbed hold of me.”

"Please, just give me one more chance."

"I quit!"

"Well you knew I was an addict when you met me." (Because I was friends with his sister and she told me before she introduced us.)

"Why don't you just trust me this time, I just want to hang out with my friends and I won't do any drugs, I promise!"

"Please come and bring me the money so I can pay this guy I owe and come home and be with you."

"I'll never go anywhere without you again!"

“I've been an asshole.”

“That is over and done with.”

“I don't know what I'm supposed to do.”

“I didn't call because all you do is talk about my faults.”

“I don't have sex with the women.  We just got high together.”

"I wish there was a pill I could take to make this go away."

"It’s really just like a chocolate craving."

"It's not a physical addiction."

"I just have to go there one more time, just to say good-bye to my friends."

"I can't promise you I won't do it again. I don't want to lie to you."

"I cant help it,it calls me......."
“I know I have a problem, but if I go into rehab it will be on my record.”

"So what if I lied? I wouldn't get upset if YOU lied to ME."


"What makes you think you're entitled to the truth?"

"I'm not addicted - I haven't got an addictive personality."

"You're over-reacting."

"I wouldn't touch any of them. Have you seen what they look like?"

"My life isn't nearly as exciting as you seem to think it is."
"I get such a rush out of controlling other people's minds, I am so much smarter than everyone else, and I can control anyone's mind" (said during a crack binge)

"I just went to the doctor to have a check up and he found a tumor.  I have 6-12 months to live".

"I am not strong enough to quit"

" I still pay the bills don't I?"

"It's fine if you're snorting it, it's when you put a flame to it that it gets out of control."

"It's no different than smoking a joint."


"He's too little to know what I'm doing."(talking about his 2 yr. old son)

"This is the last time, I promise."

"This is something I'll have to deal with for the rest of my life."

"I should be able to do what I want to do-make my own choices."

"You think you own me."

"I AM NOT A CRACKHEAD."
"I could quit, but no one will help me (after everyone is exhausted from trying to help and getting let down again) . "

"I swear I am not doing anything wrong ."

"I have missed too much of my kids life, I promise I am not going to do anything again."

"I don't want to go back to jail, I am not going to do anything again."

"I swear I am clean, why can't I see the kids?"

"You don't trust me with my own children?"

"I have to smoke crack to live with you."


"What do you mean, 'No'?" (this accompanied by a threatening pose and glare, after he's asked again to 'borrow' money)
"I only did it once this week."

"I didn't hit you, if I hit you I would have broken your jaw."

“I don’t buy it; they call me to see if I can hook them up. So, I go pick it up for them.”

"No one else is ever going to want to be with you."

"And what about all the money you spend on shopping?"


"Your a shop-aholic.  I don't see you seeking any help.  You actually spend more money than I do."
" Don't worry about where I was, but I can promise you I am not doing anything wrong. "


" Why do I have to report to you? Who do you think you are? "
"Leave me alone! ""It's over ! I found someone who  won't condemn me." "Who can get along with my friends,"


"I will pay you back all the money I owe you."
"See, this doesn't help. You wonder why I turn to drugs. It's your constant bitching."

"I am a crack addict because you don't trust me!"

"If you give me more freedom I can quit!"

"You need to just trust me more" (after being lied to everyday since we met)

"Before I met YOU I was just a recreational user"

"I should be allowed to go out anywhere I want. You want to go out? I don't think so!"

"The reason why I did crack was because you let my laundry pile up for a week now!"

"Can you look for another job for me? I know you're at work, but I'm tired here at home..."

"I smoked my entire $2000 last month and I owe for retribution or I go to jail. Can you lend me some money?"

"Did you call the cops on me? Cause an entire SWAT team is outside my window!" (there was no one out
there)

"Why don't you trust me? I've never cheated! I know I told you I cheated but I made it up!"

“I hate to ask you this (after picking him up from a crack house begging him to come home ) just let me borrow $10.00 I will get one more hit and I will never use again!!!”

"I do it to help me sleep."

"You have serious issues."

"I love you madly, however I am a very unhappy person."

"Don't piss me off."

'I swear on my daughters life, I did not <cheat, use, steal>.'

"At least I can say one thing, that I never cheated on you."

'I don't smoke crack; I shoot coke. Get it straight!'


'You were helping me out' (Referring to him taking my credit card out of my wallet and getting a cash advance while I was sleeping. I was actually suprised by this one b/c I slept with my wallet at that time, but he managed to get the card out and actually return it to my wallet before I woke up)

'Actually, it's kind of like being a loan shark in a way because I only stole $400 from him and I ended up paying him back $500' (Referring to stealing money from family member and then disputing how much money was actually stolen)
"So I made a MISTAKE!!!  Like you've never made any in your life Miss Perfect"
(after being caught using drugs w/ the children in the house)

"I want you to have my babies."

"I don’t know where my cell phone is.  It must have fallen out of my pocket."

"You don't believe me? Then why don't YOU tell ME where I was, Dick Tracy?"

"You always hold on to the past, You never just let it go"

"I don't have a retirement fund or savings account because all my money goes to pay child support and/or alimony."

"I'm just a recreational user."

"I didn't tell you about my crack problem so you could throw it in my face."

"You would be such a great step mom to my kids."


"I think about you CONSTANTLY."

"Can you pay tonight?" (For whatever....)

"I didn't get to a bank machine today so I don't have any money on me."

"This is the first time I quit, I did crack for 3 years but quit a month with no withdrawals or outside help. I quit because my car and debit card were stolen at a crack house. Then, one of my good friend's heart exploded while doing crack. That did it for me. I don't think I have a drinking problem though." (Said while drinking beer #12 of a 12-pack)

"My last name sounds so good after your first name." (Said by a man)

"I have a fantasy that you'll wake up one day and realize how much you really love me."

"You're not married to me so why are you trying to hold me accountable?"

(Said when drunk...) "I lost one of my jobs due to crack." Then when sober, "no it didn't go that far I didn't really lose any jobs over it."

"When I do crack I have no feeling in my groin area whatsoever."

"Why are you always throwing my past in my face (sob)?"

"Your always assuming, and I hate that."

"If I lived with you I would not use."

"Since you kicked me out, I'm going to find a female roommate.  I don't like coming home to an empty house."

"I work a physical job.  That's why I'm sleeping all the time."

"I don't know where the car titles are.  I hope they didn't get thrown away."

"Every time we get too serious, it seems like things start falling apart."
(Every time the relationship got serious, you went to the crack house!)

"Hey, hey, baby girl…..Don't do me like this!"

"Who's your daddy?"

"I've always been a hard worker."  (5 jobs in 2 years)

"Things are looking up.  I worked three days this week."

"Don't be giving away the family secrets."

"Where was my truck towed?  You just cost me a $5,000 job!"

"Where's the generator (among other tools)?  Earl wanted to borrow them."

"My ladder blew off the top of the truck, into the river, and was swept downstream with the current."

"I know we just filled the van up, but the gas gauge must be broke. We are empty again (three times a week." 18 gallons of gas each)

 "I broke  (insert daughters name here) aquarium, I have to run to Wal-Mart and get a new tank or all the fish will die."(at 11 at night-while I'm at work)

 "I don't know who walked into your bedroom after you went to sleep and stole the last $40.00 for groceries out of the wallet, hidden in the top of the closet under the winter sweaters."

IF THE PHONE RINGS:

"I'm in the bathroom."

"I'm taking a shower."

"I'm sleeping."

“Dad, I picked this stray cat up to ride along with me to keep e company in the semi, I stopped, and he must have gotten out, I drove 300 miles, it was freezing cold out, 0%, something told me to stop, well I did and that cat had rode on the fuel tank for 300 miles, I couldn’t believe it”

"It took you being so close to dying to make me realize that I have to quit. I am DONE with that stuff." (One day later, out smoking CRACK)

"I was hanging out at a friends and fell asleep."


"My phone died, that's why I didn't answer for 5 hours."

"We didn't get paid this week."

"I put the whole hundred dollars in gas."

"You're just being paranoid."

"If you can't trust me then why are we together?"

"I drank some energy drinks and they made me feel funny."
"My stomach is upset. I think I have diarrhea."

"I can't tell you where I am, but DON'T WORRY I'm in a safe place ... and going to meetings!"

"I was kidnapped by a drug dealer and I had to pay him $3,000 to let me go or he said he would kill me."  (Gone for 6 days)

”I take my sobriety very seriously (sobbing)!!! It hurts me so much for you to accuse me of using THAT again!!!”

 “Why are you so obsessed with this cocaine thing? I don’t do that!”

 “We need to build trust. Why don’t I take that $100 bill, go get Taco Bell, and bring you the change?”

 “The bus didn’t come for five hours.”

 “Brillo pads work better WITHOUT soap, THAT’s why I bought them.”

 “Kelly is a HEROIN addict. We have a good recovery relationship because we don’t like the same thing.”

 “I’ve got sixty days clean and sober today! Can you give me money to go shopping?”

 “I wish I were dead!!!”

 “I would NEVER ask our son to pee in a cup! What kind of mother do you think I am?”

 “I can’t find my engagement ring. YOU STOLE IT!”

 “Remember that $500 you hid in the ceiling after 9/11, and lost? I want to find it to repair our relationship.”

 “Why can’t you just TRUST me???”


"My New Years Resolution is to stop doing crack."

"I know I'm such a failure. Why do you have to remind me?"

"My friend owes me money. Borrow me some and I'll pay you back."

Growing  up I had child hood problems."

"I'll be right back. Wait for me."
"If this is the way we're gonna live, I might as well go smoke crack"

 "You have to have everything your way, Mr. Control"

 "tell me what a loser I am"

 "tell me whats the difference between crack and alcohol abuse?"

 "my love for you is real"

 "I loved you from day one"

 "crack addicts are filthy people, I'm not like that"

 "I like being my myself when I smoke crack"

 "Not everybody is horney when they smoke crack, not me"

 "I'll go on welfare before I take a minimum pay job"

 "You're bogue, you didn't even bother to call to see if I was OK " (after being gone all night)

 "My cell phone was on vibrate in my purse, I didn't hear you call"

 "I left my cell phone in the car and went into a bar with friends?

 "I had my cell phone shut off, the battery was almost dead"

 "I got drunk in a bar and passed out in my car in the parking lot"

 "I know I'm an addict,  Why are you being so mean to me telling me that?"

 "I will always love you, no matter what happens between us"

 "Why are you trying to change me?  I don't do that to you"

 "I wanted to get caught (after getting arrested)  I need help"

 "I can't do this alone"

 "I can't do this without you"

"I can't go to a re-hab around here, there are too many wet faces there"

"I can't go to a re-hab where there are court ordered addicts, they arn't serious about recovery"

"I have to go to a top notch re-hab, they're the only ones that can help me"

"If I could learn the tools I need at re-hab to fight this, I could beat this thing"

"I know judges and lawyers that do crack, how bad can it be"
"I love you."

"I can't live without you."

"You are the best person in the world."

"I will kill myself if I can't be with you."

"Your are the only one who can help me."

"I can only quit if you help me."

"No one understands me but you."

"If you leave me I will go use."

"There is no point in quitting if you leave me."

"My life will get better if you help."

"I have no place to go! You can't throw me out on the street!"

"I was doing good, but if you aren't gonna come back to me I might as well get high."

"I promise, I will go to detox........tomorrow."

"I know when and how I'm gonna quit."

"How can you be so cruel? I am human after all."

"You can't have sex when you are high."

"Are you crazy? I would never have sex with another man."

"I didn't touch her. We were just getting high."

"She's just a friend that needed help."

"If you would have been with me I know I would not have used."

"You just can't throw away X years."

"Don't worry, I have a great job lined up."

"You can't make me leave. My name is on the lease."

"What about the wedding vows."

"I would never do this to you. I would be there for you."

"You are cruel and mean to (a) throw me out."

     (b)not allow me to be around the kids
     (c)not give me money
     (d)not take me back
     (e)not give me another chance
     (f)not feed me, I have no money

 "This time it will be different."

"How could you possible think that I would steal money from the kids."

"No, I haven't seen the kid's Christmas presents."

"No, I haven't seen the kid's piggy bank."

"The cameras are at work, baby. I just keep forgetting to bring them home."

"No I haven't seen your debit card."

"No, I haven't seen your checkbook."

"I lost my wallet and had the cash from my paycheck in it. How stupid of me." (three times)

"I don't know how those charges for the porno Web sites got on your credit card."

"It's not my fault, I'm an addict."

"They shorted me on my check again."

"I just need the debit card to get gas. I'll be back in 15 minutes."

"Honey, I have no idea where you put your wedding ring. How would I know?"

"The car? Oh, it broke down and I have a friend fixing it."

"I must have been out of cell range because I never got any of your calls."

"This is an addiction, a medical problem, it's not a choice."

"It could have been much worse."

"Don't hold the place I live over my head."

"You and my son are the only things I have holding me to the real world."

"Don't leave me."

"I can't talk about that now."

"I have never fondled prostitutes. At least I don't have that on my conscience."

"You're my only hope for a normal life."

"I lost my cell phone (watch) ."

"I know I lied, but I was only trying to shield you from unnecessary pain."

"Let's talk about it tomorrow."

"You sound like my ex-girlfriend."

"You sound like my parents."

"You sound like my ex-wife."

"I just needed to use the bathroom.....again."

"I hate it when people go around accusing innocent people of being drug addicts."

"I'm not like the rest of those addicts."

"I'm better than the rest of those addicts. I took some college night classes."

"I'll call AA tomorrow."

"I couldn't stay in rehab. I missed you too much."

"I can fight this on my own."

"I think about you all the time."

"Even when I'm using, all I think about is you."

"I didn't access the porn site with the virus. You must have got it in an email."

"What do I need porn for? There are plenty of whores on the streets if that's what I want."

"If you accuse me of smoking crack, I might as well go and do it."

"They need to appreciate me if they want me to show up at work."

"Don't make me feel worse by reminding me I've blown all the money."

"I can't remember if I smoked crack last night."

"She's just a friend."

"That lie is now history."

"But that was in the past".

"I didn't want to give you all the bad news at once, so I just told you some of it so you wouldn't be upset."

"You have a serious problem trusting me."

"They must have messed up my direct deposit. And, NO, they didn't issue me a check."

"This is the LAST time."

"Well at least I didn't pay for it."

"Don't you think I feel bad enough already? I've been in the grossest places in the world with the scummiest people alive! Don't make me feel worse than I already do."

"Are we out of CHOREBOYS?"

"Are we out of baking soda?"

"What happened to all the lighters?"

"Don't we have any more metal hangars?"

"Just one more twenty."

"Please don't be mad."

"Don't hate me. I already hate myself enough."

"I don't know how you got Chlamydia. I swear, I've never had sex with anyone but you."

"If you leave me, I'll kill myself."

"I owe some dealers $200. If I don't pay them tonight, they're gonna kill me."

"I'm gonna commit suicide."

"I'm sick. I need $60 to get a prescription filled."

"If you don't give me money to get my car back, I won't make it to work and I will lose my job."

"I was numb from the neck down."

"Therapy won't do me any good. I've already heard the same stuff a thousand times."

"This is MY recovery/journey, I need to do this MY way."

"I know I missed my probation meeting. I'll go down there tomorrow."

"I know I missed my court date. I'll go down there tomorrow."

"I know there's a warrant for my arrest. I'll go down there tomorrow."

"I was going to get insurance but I was waiting til I got my license."

"It's a friend's car. I borrowed it for a couple of days."

"It's all your fault."

"You drove me to use."

"I'll be home in an hour........."

"I have to work a double shift tonight..."

"I just watched them have sex....."

"It was just sex....it didn't mean anything."

"I Love You more than anything in the world.... (except CRACK)."

"If you were more understanding......I wouldn't use CRACK."

"If you gave me more freedom.......I wouldn't use CRACK."

"I swear on my kid's life.....I did not screw around on you!"
"I keep wooden matches in the bathroom to deodorize after a BM."

"You're just a control freak."

"I will take a DRUG TEST anytime and PROVE to you I’m not using drugs!!"

"I’m on my way home right now."

 "I’m 2 blocks away."

 "You always bring up the past and throw it in my face."

 "There’s no excuse for my behavior."

 "I was sleeping."

 "I never left the apartment -  I was having a nervous breakdown."


"I will be there in 15 minutes."

"Someone stole my 100 dollars."

"I know I've been selfish, that I am selfish, I don't know if I even know how to NOT BE SELFISH."

'I couldn't call you because I knew then I'd have to deal with reality."

'I wanted to call but I couldn't face you and the guilt."
"Why are you sleeping with your purse, wallet, keys? I can’t believe you think * I* would steal them!"

"My jewelry?" "Oh, I'm having it cleaned."

"I still can't believe you just left me to die."

"I was reading my bible when they picked me up."

"How can you say you are so spiritual and then turn your back on me?"

"If I was with that other woman, she would not turn her back on me. She would bail me out."

"How can you believe them and not me? They use drugs."


"If you call the cops, you'll be dead before they get to the door."

"I fell asleep in the car."

*You are lost, dear."

"Those scratches on my shins are from the laundry detergent."

"That's the past.  You can't get over the past (even though it was last month)."
"I know I'm a piece of ***t you don't have to remind me. I tell myself everyday."

"I'll do anything you say to make this better, anything... I'll set up counseling in the morning."

"But, I didn't pay for it. It was free"

"I'm scum and I deserve to die. Without you, I'd have been dead already."

"You can hit me if you want. I deserve it."

"It's not about you. I'm sick."

"WHAT??? I thought we were starting over. YOU promised to trust me."

"Taking care of yourself...HA...You turned your back on me!!"

 "Why are you turning everyone against me?"

 "I don't need to work a program. This isn't a problem."

 "I got a new job, I start next week."

 "I can do this on my own...Do you have a place I can crash?"

"I still can't believe you just left me to die"

"I was held at gun point on the street by two men while they stole my money,"

"I made sure I burned my bridges with my dealer. I stole his crack to make sure that will be the last time I will ever use."

"Can I borrow money for pot so that I don't go smoke crack. If I don't have weed I will go smoke crack."

"Will you call my work and tell them I am sick."

"My car broke down after my outpatient program and I fell asleep in the truck, all night!"
 "I was on my way to your house and an old dealer held me at gun point so I had to go with him and I had to pay him."

"I lost the company cell phone."

"I used cuz everyone hates what I have done."

"I don't like how you handle your kids so I had to leave."

"I am angry and had to leave cuz I can't handle how men love to talk to you."

 "Using crack stopped my cravings for alcohol.."  "I could be dead if it hadn't been for crack."


"I'll take the kids so you know I'm not using."

"Can I use your car to go pick up my mother-in-law?"

"I'll be right back we need some milk."{And comes home 3 days later}

"I was pulled over and the car was towed,and I can't remeber where they towed it."{Car was never found}
"I don't trust you anymore you got me and my friend busted."


"Now noone will sell me anything because of you."

"It's my business why I'm wearing a sweater." at 80 F

"My kids don't know what I'm doing in the bathroom."

"I just needed a couple of days to my self."

"If you give me the $40.00 today I have a big check coming on Friday and I promise I'll pay you back then."

"I am going to detox myself because if I can't do it by myself then no one can help me."

"Remission is a part of recovery."

"I need $60 to get my lights turned on. (at 9 o'clock at night)"

"I hate you for not letting me see my kids.  You are a f***ing b***h!"
"Can I borrow your car to go Christmas shopping?"

"Pot takes the edge off."

"My friend’s mom had a heart attack at midnight & I had to take them to the hospital. That’s where I’ve been all night & day." (with black smears adorning his white t-shirt).

"I couldn’t make work, so I told them my mom had a diabetic seizure."

"You should really take the detective test, you’d get a job so fast!!"

"I don’t know how you’ve stuck by me through all of this."

"She's just one of my patients."

"You're just mad cause you can't control me."

"You're my world"

"You're the best decision I've ever made in my life"

"I have friends who are willing to share their crack with me"
"All you think about is money"

"You make me sick"

"No, those guys were not dealers...they were lost and stopped to ask for directions"

"I am not using...I just owe money"

"I'm ___ years old and I have to ask you for smokes!"

"I didn't know she was a cop, she said she needed a ride."

"You should let me use at home once a month."

"At least when I used at home you knew where I was."
"I was just giving her a ride."

"You always find out anyways."
"Someone jumped me and stole my keys and then stole my car.  I’ll call the police tomorrow to report it."

 "My car broke down, but I know a guy that can fix it for me. . . .just need $200."

"I’m paying my child support directly to my ex wife.   I pay her cash so, NO, I don’t have any proof."

"I was in an accident and it turned out the truck was stolen, so I had to pay for the repairs!"

"My car broke down after my outpatient program and I fell asleep in the truck, all night!"

"I'm trying to help. you are to stubborn to accept help even from your husband."

"crack did not do this."

"I'm not afraid of the devil.  I will be one of the warriors in Gods army when he comes to defeat  Satan."

"GOD is preparing me."

"Women are liars and drama queens ."

"You started it."

"I don't understand why you are complaining and insist on fighting."

"Straight??? for how long?"

"You hurt with intent and malice."

"I would not hurt you."

"I'm too confused ."

"How about hotel room two eight balls and a dvd?"

"I know I've been selfish, that I am selfish, I don't know if I even know how to NOT BE SELFISH."

"Hey, I feel bad enough, I don't want to hear this right now."

"I do love you and the kids."

"Now I know I need to simply my life, my job is too stressful."

"I know now I need to convert to [insert religion here]'"

"I couldn't call you because I knew then I'd have to deal with reality."

"I wanted to call but I couldn't face you and the guilt."
"I never left the apartment -  I was having a nervous breakdown."

"I’m on my way home right now."

 "I’m 2 blocks away."

 "You always bring up the past and throw it in my face."

 "There’s no excuse for my behavior."

 "I was sleeping."

"I will take a DRUG TEST anytime and PROVE to you I’m not using drugs!! "  (until you actually buy one, then they a make a million excuses not to take it).

"Things Their Enablers Say"


"How much money do you need to get by?"

"Beloved. Payday is tomorrow. Are you going to be ok?  I want to know how you are doing...Go to a meeting, call me..whatever it takes...I love you." (email)
" i KNOW where he is every single hour. and no, he didn't sneak out of the house last night, i was sleeping right here on the couch"

"It's easy for everyone else to say what to do! What if it was your child? You and everyone else has no idea!"

" But I LLLOOOOOVVVVE her!!!!"


"She is such a good person when she is/was sober"

"She said She doesn't want to use anymore"

"This time it will be different because she completed a two month rehab. I can feel her different already.  She has the tools now."

"If she would only take her bipolar medication then she wouldnt be lke this anymore"

"She's going to kill himself, overdose, and someone is going to kill or hurt him if I leave him."

"She wants to get counseling, but he doesn't have the money right now"


"She knows that if he does it again then it's OVER"


"I don't understand why the kids can't come to visit as long as you're there with them.  She's not going to hurt anyone"


"They can't come visit (the grandkids), even if she's not using??"


"There's nothing at MY house, she knows she can't bring it (crack) there"


"She mentioned again last night that she would like to seek some intense counseling"


"I think She wants something more intense than that" (after being told that there is FREE counseling/support/treatment available for those who want it)

"I am his wife and if something happens to him I will feel responsible. I am all he has."

"but She has so much potential"

“This is the LAST time I'll send you money.”

"I'm 100% sure she will never do crack again"

"Maybe I should bring her for counselling. I think She is depressed and that is why she uses."


"She was crying and says she is sorry for leaving us for days"

"I need to help her. She is my Wife."

"She is looking for work. I even faxed his resume to some places today. Hopefully someone will call."
"After this, I’m not lending you any more money."

“She’s only had three relapses”

“She’s a really nice gal”

“her ex is just over reacting”

“I moved her in ‘cause She had no where else to go”

“She’s taking steps to deal with it.”

"I love you ,come home."

"It is my doubt in her that keeps her using."

It is 2:00 a.m. "Mom, She just called and I have to pick her up again. She is in some bad part of town and is freaking out. Will you watch the baby until I get back?"

"Will you watch the baby? I need to drive to the rehab place to give her cigarettes?"

"This is the very last time, I swear the last time.... don't ask me again because I am not going to give you anymore money - I swear." (as if there is ever a last time)

"If I ride with her she won't be gone all night ."

"Dana can't come into work today, she has the flu."

"She can't help it, she's sick! You wouldn't say that about somebody if they had Cancer, would you?"

"Just promise you'll never do this again. Do you give your word? Say you give your word."

"OK, I'll give you one more chance."

"But WE'RE going to do it this time!"


"WE'LL go to meetings TOGETHER."

"At least she's getting the heroin under control."

"Well, there's this guy at her  work who's a real CRACKHEAD and she's the one who's causing all the problems at her job."

"Did you call ... your probation officer, the court, your job, any job ads, your parents, your brother ... today?"

"Well, she's not working right now, but things are pretty slow in all the trades right now" (right now = all the time)

"Yes, she's back to work." (I did think this one was true, as it turns out she was driving to a McDonald's parking lot inthe mornings and sleeping in the car until I left for work.)

"She said she's not willing to give up any more of her life to this disease than she already has."

"Swear to me that you only did crack THIS ONE TIME and it doesn't mean you're addicted to drugs again(?!)" *this one was several years ago,but I still can't get over saying that one.

"Well you KNOW that you NEED to do heroin every day, so why would you spend your money on crack?" ditto for this one.

"Don't worry about ANYTHING - just focus on YOURSELF and your RECOVERY."
"Don't worry.....I'll take care of it....Don't worry!"

"She's such a wonderful person when he's not using."

"Is there any hope? He's going into rehab next week."

"She would never be violent with me."

"She would NEVER do that"


"They CAN recover"

"They're not all the same"

"I'll give you ONE more chance"
"But, I loooooove her (voice going up 8 octaves)."

"But, I REALLY BELIEVED her this time.!!!"

“ I can’t believe they screwed up shorted you on your paycheck AGAIN!”

"But you said you would be home in FIVE MINUTES and that was TWO HOURS ago...*sigh* ..ok see you in 5 minutes"

“I won’t fight with you anymore, please don’t go take a drive to “cool down”.  Last time you were gone all night”

“Please just come home, your court time is 9:00am and you need to be sober!  (It’s 3am usually when the call comes)

"What if she has died, it is my fault"

"HOW CAN YOU SAY THOSE THINGS ABOUT YOU OWN SISTER?"

"IF IT WASN'T FOR ..NAME... SHE WOULDN'T HAVE THESE PROBLEMS."

"WE CAN'T LOSE HOPE IN HER.   SHE'S MY FAMILY."

"SHE WOULD NEVER LY OR STEAL FROM US....SHE'S FAMILY."

"SHE JUST NEEDS ALITTLE HELP TO GET BACK ON HER FEET."

"WE CAN'T BE TOO HARD ON HER .  WHAT IF SHE KILLED HERSELF?  HOW WOULD YOU FEEL THEN?"

"I'm sorry, you're right, the fight we had was my fault. Please don't be mad at me anymore." (After CH picked a fight........)

"Where have you been? I'm just relieved you're ok."

"Don't worry about money tonight, I'll pay the bar tab."

"You haven't ever had sex with that guy, have you? No? Whew....thank God!" (And felt true relief LIKE AN IDIOT!)

"I love you too."
"Do you 'really' promise this time?"

"Can we just get away this weekend ... just you and me ... and no drugs?"

"I will never leave you."

"I will help you conquer this."

"I know you love me more than anything."

"Just don't leave,  you can stay here and smoke in the den.  I just need to know you are safe."

"I've looked in all the rooms ... there's nobody else here."

"I understand that you are only treating me like this is because you are so stressed from trying to quit."

"No,  I didn't hear anything."

"I'll call and explain that you have the flu (flat tire, Dr. appointment, etc.) and can't make it."

"Awww .... that's so sweet of you to think of me and bring this rose."

"I'm sorry you don't feel well.  Why don't you go lay down and I'll bring you something to eat."

"I know you would of never laid a hand on me if you weren't so stressed from trying to quit."

"I forgive you ... I forgive you ... I forgive you ... I forgive you ..."

"Yes I do trust you."

"I'm not cheating on you.  I really did go to Mom's house."

"I wont bring up your drug use again."

"Yes I do remember our vows."

"You just relax ... I'll take care if it. "

"I'm sorry,  I will try to be more understanding."

"I am so happy ... so we can leave in the morning for rehab?"

"Let's just forget it ever happened.  Tomorrow is a new day."

"Yes I understand that it will be hard to quit and I understand that all addicts relapse's several times."

"I'll be OK ... let's put all our efforts into getting you well."

"OK,  I will stay right here until you get back. How long do you think you will be?"

"Why?"

"Where’s my car?"

 "Where’s my bankcard?"

 "How are we going to pay the electric bill?"

"Did you sleep with her (him)?"

 "I don’t believe you."

"But I'm afraid she'll die if I leave her."

"She needs my help to get better, she can't do it by herself."

"I need to be there for her so she doesn't give up."

 "I'll ignore it just this one last time ..."

 "If you do this again, I swear I'll leave you ..."

 "You look like you need a good meal ..."

"I can't believe she would do this AGAIN!!!!!!!!"

"Ok, I'll drive you to get dope, but this is the LAST TIME."