You know, I get this question (or a variation) nearly every day:
“I’ve seen this girl that I really like, but I always seem to screw it up when I try to talk to her. Is there a way to get her wanting me?”
Well the truth is…
You can… if you understand how “chemistry” works with women.
So what IS chemistry?
SIMPLE: Chemistry is the CONNECTION you feel for her, and she feels for you.
The stronger the connection… the stronger the chemistry.
CONNECTION = CHEMISTRY
And here’s the kicker…
And how you can help a woman fall in love with you…
A woman will ultimately CHOOSE to be with the man she feels the MOST chemistry with at that time.The most CONNECTION.
So isn’t the real question: How do you connect with her?
Yes, in fact, that IS the real question.
Because when you connect with a woman, you create not only attraction, but real chemistry that she won’t soon forget.
Here’s a simple 3-step method for creating chemistry:1) Stop trying to “match” her.
I see this one all the time when I’m coaching. Guys think that if they find something in common with her – like a restaurant they both like, or a movie they both enjoyed – that this is going to create a connection.
Well, it does – but it’s a VERY weak connection. It’s what I call “coincidental” – and it doesn’t help to create REAL CHEMISTRY.
It feels thin and fake.
If these coincidences come up in conversation, go ahead and use them. But don’t go on a long drawn out search for them.
Instead, focus on:
2) Seek out shared emotional experiences.
This is HUGE.
It’s also about 100 times more powerful with women in creating that feeling of “chemical romance” we call “chemistry.”
Because when you hit on an emotional experience that you’ve both had, that’s a deep connection right there. It’s something that will make her feel like you were both destined to be together.
A shared emotional experience could be as simple as a childhood experience you both had, or even a funny moment you share RIGHT NOW in your conversation.
A woman is series of emotional waves, and you are the surfer riding them.
And of course, if you want to seal your chemistry up with a woman TIGHT, you must…
3) Leave her wanting more.
This is the #1 rule of show business – and it needs to be your #1 rule of connecting with women.
I know, I know. It sounds like it’s totally contradictory to connecting, right?
After all, leaving her unfulfilled sounds like it’s DIS-connecting you instead.
Well, if you did your job in #2 above, and then you end it on a high note and leave her wanting more of that feeling… This will only ensure that actually will see you again.
And that is the ultimate goal of EVERY interaction you have with a woman – get her to want MORE of you than the last time. So that she keeps coming back again and again.
And when you leave her wanting more, you actually kill two birds with one stone: She wants you more – and when you’re not there, you’re all she’s thinking about.
It’s the only guaranteed path to her heart – and into her bed.