What Causes Most Men To Fail With Women?

It's related to the concept of attraction, but let's see how men screw it up.

The fundamental problem usually arises when a man starts behaving as if the woman he desires is choosing whether or not to feel attracted to him. Guys do things like give compliments, buy gifts, call often, and invite women to dinner, in order to "convince" women to feel attracted to them. And of course, this stuff nev
er works.

If a man doesn't either: 1) Know how attraction works and how to create it, or 2) Have the good fortune of being rich, famous or dashingly handsome, then no amount of compliments, gifts, calls, and dinners will ever fix the problem.

Men usually fail with women because they just don't get it . They have a bad map in their minds of how to attract women. Men have gotten a lot of bad programming from their moms, dads, culture, religion, and friends.

I really believe that at a fundamental level, every man is born with the natural ability to communicate with women and attract them on a sexual level. But our programming from birth to adulthood "covered over" that natural talent and never allowed it to develop.

After working with a lot of guys over the last several years, I can tell you that all it takes to dramatically improve your success with women is a new understanding of how things work, and some good programming to help get back in touch with that inner part of you that already knows what to do.

What Are Some Of The Biggest Dating Mistakes Men Make?

I think that the one single biggest mistake men make with women is giving away their power .

Women are not attracted to weak men, but guys always act weak around the ones they desire. We're a gender of Wuss-Boys who try to make women like us by kissing up to them.

Think about it -- as a guy, are you more attracted to a 6' tall, 200-pound, buff woman with short spiked hair, or a woman who's 5'6" with a slim, hourglass figure, long hair, and a model face?

Right, you're attracted to the feminine woman, not the masculine woman.

Well, this just in: Women are attracted to masculine men, not feminine men. This masculinity triggers attraction in women just like femininity triggers attraction in men.

The one single biggest way that men screw this dynamic up is by giving away their power. We do things like asking women out, then asking the woman where she'd like to be taken out. Then, when she says, "Oh, wherever is fine," we push the issue and try to force her to lead by saying, "No, really... where do you want to go?" This is one common example that just about ever guy can identify with.

Find out why this is a turnoff and whether or not you should pay for dinner..What most guys don't realize is that by giving away their power and making the woman the leader, they trigger a particular emotional response in a woman that can be described roughly as an instant buzz kill . Giving away your power kills attraction faster than you can say, "I touch myself."

Should Men Pay For Their Dates?

This is a fantastic question. Men get themselves into all kinds of trouble with this one.

Okay, imagine this: A guy calls a woman he met a day or two earlier, and says, "Hey, let me take you to dinner." After dinner, the check comes and he thinks to himself, You know, I read in a book that it's okay to ask a woman to pay for half.

So he looks at the woman, then at the bill. She looks back at him, grabs the bill, pays it, and then turns cold and wants to go home.

If you ask a woman out to dinner in this day and age, it's kind of like picking up a six-pack in the grocery store and walking to the checkout counter with it. You're expected to pay. I mean, hey, you're the one who asked her to dinner, right?

The reality is that this is another question that has much deeper implications.

Men's thinking goes like this: I'm interested in a woman, so I need to ask her out to dinner. That's the way it goes. Men believe that asking a woman to dinner is the only way to proceed romantically with a woman.

Well, it's not. There are all kinds of other ways. And most of those other ways are far better with most women you'll meet.

Men need to learn how to keep their power for themselves. Men need to learn that women aren't attracted to men who try to bribe them and manipulate them with dinners and gifts.

Men need to learn how attraction works, how to trigger it in women, and how to proceed from one step to the next smoothly with women, so they don't need to use things like dinners and gifts to get dates.